I totally caught my girl cheating, she denied it 100%. I showed her the emails from an account I found "that I wasn't suppposed to know about" and lone behold emails confirming the cheating. I have tried to forgive her because we have kids, but it is always in the back of my head. Should I just leave, because I think it's time.
2006-07-13 18:52:18 · 15 answers · asked by alllakersin2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm with "Omphale." Why are so many people having children out of wedlock? Ugh!!!!! Do you know how hard that is on children when they reach the school years? Yes you have feelings too, and certainly do not deserve to be used and abused. This relationship between you two is going nowhere. If it was, you two would have been married by now. Time to go. However, sit down and talk to your children and let them know that you two are no longer going to be in a relationship, but that you two love them dearly. During the split, try to maintain a high order of consistency in your parenting.
2006-07-13 19:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
if u love her u should give her a another chance HOWEVER can u live with the thoughts in ur head, constant question marks, what is she doing now? is she still cheating on me? can i trust her again. plus in every argument u gonna end up talking about her cheating. could be very hard to deal with. on the other hand time is a great healer and uve got kids. do u want them to grow without both parents being there? but but but do u wanna stay in a relationship where u stay just for the sake of the kids??? questions questions sooooo many of them. does she wanna stay with u? do u wanna stay with her? whats ur sex life gonna b like? how r u gonna feel everytime she is near a computer??? can u just walk away? so many things tied together. good luck mate
2006-07-14 02:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by EXETERRAM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should, don't listen to the women's union lock on bashing you for a woman cheating or the moron that that tries to come up with technical excuses for it. Christ one person gave the solution as bang her best friend. Now that's real sound advice for the kids future.
Bet you were at work (To pay the bills) while she was doing him.
Just be a man get the kids and LEAVE.
Same story different day just your turn this time.
2006-07-14 02:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you know you can't forgive, you should leave her. If you decide to stay you'll ruin your relationship if everytime an issue comes up you bring up what she's done in the past.
You have to be honest with yourself so you won't be miserable later on. As far as the kids, you can still be there for them if you 2 are not together.
2006-07-14 02:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by caramel_sundae1077 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women don't cheat because its something to do.. they cheat because they are missing something at home.. Are you showing her enough attention.. Maybe missing something in the bedroom.? . what is she missing? you need to find out what she is miss and and fix whatever problem you have.. and i would not go and get married just because you have kids.. i would get joint custody of the kids just in case you would leave or she would leave you.. that is why there are so many divorces because people get pregnant and get married.. if she changes and you 2 fix the problems and want to be together then get married.. it is stupid to get married or even stay together for the kids.. my mom stayed with my dad for us kids. and quite frankly we would of been better off without him.. and my husband stayed married for 7 years to his ex wife for the kids.. and guess what 2 of the kids were not even his because of her messing around.. so that crap of getting married and staying together for kids is bull crap!
So work out whatever problems you are having.. like her cheating
she might not admit it because she is afraid of you leaving.. tell her that you are not going to leave.. and to just tell you the truth because it hurts you more that she is lying then anything.. And you can get past it and move on if she finally tells the truth..
And if she was cheating with someone from the computer.. since you found the e mail.. put a password on the computer and you sign her in and out of it since she can not be trusted. if she is not willing to do that then i would leave. Set up rules. no computer unless you are home..
2006-07-14 02:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by ~Mrs.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed with my wife after I caught her cheating only because she was pregnant. I didn't even know if she was carrying my child. After our son was born, I got DNA testing, and he is mine.
But anyways, I thought it would be best to stick it out so our son would have a single family unit. I was wrong. There was no trust in my house. I'm 80% sure she was cheating again, but couldn't prove it this time. She ran away to California and took our son away from me. I had to file for divorce just to see him again.
Leave her. Get a lawyer and take your children from her. Your kids need a stable environment. She didn't just cheat on you, she cheated your family.
2006-07-14 02:13:58 · answer #6 · answered by Cracker 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Insist you both go to a marriage guidance counsellor. Find out WHY she was cheating - maybe you need to do something better which you don't know about. Think creatively about your love life and how you can improve it. Familiarity/sameness in peoples' love lives is an ongoing threat to marriages.
2006-07-14 02:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Okker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "think its time"????? Is that the norm these days? Give a relationship a "time limit" then move on to bigger and better??? SWEET JOSEPH!!!! What happend to Love Honor and Cherish till DEATH DO YOU PART.. NOT, till my baby daddy, find something better... Whats wrong with this world today???
2006-07-14 02:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she your wife?
If she is not then technically she didn't cheat on
you. If you guys woulda done the "right "
thing and got married then maybe youd have
a point. You dont knock up a girl and not
propose to her, that is so disrespectful.
BTW I feel sorry for your children
and not either of you
2006-07-14 01:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if things are really bad then yes but if you really love her and think theres any possibly that yall could still work it out then go to councling and try your hardest! good luck!:)
2006-07-14 01:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by may girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋