I would never cheat on him and he knows that. Hes told me he knows that. but the last couple months, he always accuses me of cheating on him.I dont know if hes doing it to make him feel better about what he did or if he really thinks im cheating on him.
2006-07-13 18:25:23 · 16 answers · asked by mudslinger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he'e doing what is called projection. he's feelings of guilt are leading him to see that everyone else is like him and that unfortunately includes you. it's unhealthy. if you can not soet it out via communication then it's wise to make a cleane break of it. you are faithful and if you are not cheating then you have no reason to feel bad.
2006-07-13 18:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by the a.m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend had an emotional affair. For lack of proof i will agree that may have been the case, but let me tell you that in the height of that affair he accused me left and right of cheating on him. Now, I am still with him cause he's my baby's daddy and all.What I did wuz i went out and bought myself a whole new wardrobe. With his money. Cause he is a lying sack of **** too. That wardrobe made me feel better. However every time i get dressed and look decent and leave the apartment, he accuses me of cheating. So i am thinking be careful, he might be cheating on me and yours might be cheating on you too. Usually the accuser is the looser! Where a condom too. For me cause i really just do not know cause he lies so much, I try to have relations with him as little a possible. I am hoping to find myself in a better situation. Good luck with yous. Also be nosy. That's how i caught my bf talking with that girl on the phone at 10:00pm. He told me he wuz talking to his friend Adam. I told him Adam has a pretty high voice cause Adam wuz a girl! He lied about that right off the bat and continued talking with her till she went back to Harvard! Be careful.
2006-07-13 18:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any marriage is salvagable. It seems like he wants to make it work. I would never tell you to just forgive him though. Forgiveness is going to take time and it is a hard decision to make. I would recommed some marriage counseling if you decide that you are willing to make it work. I do not believe that "Once a cheater, always a cheater" because people cheat for a reason and not everyone cheats because they are sex maniacs. Dealing with the "reasons" that lead him astray may in fact keep be all that is needed to prevent this from happening again. Remember 90% of trust is earned, the other 10% is given.
2016-03-27 04:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has cheated on you and he is accusing you of cheating on him then he is trying to hide his quilt because he is still cheating on you and this will make him feel better if he thinks you might be cheating on him but deep down he knows you are not. It is just his way to make himself feel better and to see you love him.
2006-07-13 18:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by kinkeeyank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok either he is doing it again and he wants to make himself feel better about doing it or he does that to relieve his guilt he has to carry. i say why are you even with him. this is not a way to carry a relationship. it should be based on trust and honesty. do you really want to continue like this? you are probably very young. think about it. i say if a man cheated he will do it again. i have been married for 11 years and honey i never would have made it this far if he had cheated. why put yourself under that daily stress.
2006-07-13 18:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by Caligurll28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is generally this speaks to a guilt the accuser has. He is accuses you to make himself to feel better about his own cheating. Girl.. you can do better. Expect better and you'll get it.
2006-07-13 18:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
which means he is probably still cheating, its sad, but thats what cheaters do, they make you feel guilty, so that you start to question yourself so much that, you omit the signs they are giving you of their own guilt! I suggest you open the relationship back up, because do you seriously want to always be made to feel guilty of something your're not doing? You deserve BETTER! Good luck!
2006-07-13 18:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's natural for a person who's cheated to be paranoid of his partner's fidelity. Imagine when a you lied to your parents when you were a teenager... don't you start assuming that other teenagers lie to their parents as well? Sort of like that... He's afraid that you'll cheat because he didn't have the self-control before.
2006-07-13 18:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by Hotaru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is that kind of thinking that, since he cheated, he essentially gave you a "get it on with someone else for free" card. So now, he's worried that you'll try to get him back at some time. Also, he's probably worried about himself cheating again too.
2006-07-13 18:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by xcornmuffinx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because hes taking the attention off himself so he can continue to cheat trust I've been there done that, and I was on the receiving end
2006-07-13 18:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋