Why do women demand respect from men, but are unwilling to give it in return?

Question

Modern society tell us to treat them like little princesses, but the better modern men treat them, the worse we get reated in return. Look at what 1960's feminism has done for us. Can we ever fix the damage?

We men today cater to women hand and foot, but all of a sudden, we are ALL the enemy. Don't believe me? Look at sitcom TV. The father is usually a bumbling fool who cannot do the simplest of tasks, and the mother is always portrayed as all-knowing and has to clean up behind her husband's mistakes She even hits him at times, but if he hits her back... woe is him. If the roles were reversed. there'd be all kinds of lawsuits. Do any guys here understand what I mean?

Please don't give me any **** about how men have oppressed and owned everything. I have never oppressed anything in my life, I have two jobs and still don't own **** like everybody else, and I wasn't around 2000 years ago. I'm speaking up against something that is not right, so lay off me.

And Angel Baby, **** you. I don't care if my question offended YOU or not, because you are a hypocritcal liar. You say you never disrespect men. *****, you just disrespected me in your snarky *** answer! I am trying to do something with my motherfuckin life, unlike your kind of women that want to freeload off a hardworking man but play the she-man type when you get good and goddamn ready..
I am so ************* sick and tired of women like you coming at us hella foul with that 'what happened in you past' **** whenever we try to stand up for ourselves. I have been shot, burned, stabbed, stomped, tortured, frozen, thrown off buildings, and jailed - 95 percent of the time a WOMAN was involved SOMEHOW. And I'm not supposed to be MAD about this? I don't have time for psychoanalysis bullshit from wanna-be sociolologist/women's studies majors/pyschologists such as yourself. That's what happened in my life. And I got a lady who doesn't challenge human nature. She knows her place and I mine

Answer 1

i hear you man. why can't women and men be treated equity. they act like they the queen because society give them their equal rights to be equals now they have taken advantage of it making men look bad. not all women do it but why treat the good guys bad but treat the bad guys like the love of your life.

to all those good guys out there. if you got a woman who treat you bad remember this. (they will miss you when the river runs dry.)

Answer 2

I do understand what you are saying. I am a 70's feminist and i still consider myself a feminist. But what we wanted was equality, not to be better than men. I don't think i'm better than anyone, male or female. Anyone who earns my respect gets it. I wasn't as sensitive to the plight of men till i had a son in 1988. Now that i have given birth to a white male, i don't like put downs of men. But i don't like put downs of anyone. The problem is that when this portraying men as idiots first got started, it was cute, because women had no power and it was the only way we could feel as if we were "getting away with something". But now when we are closer to being equal, it's not as funny and the humor has definitely worn off. It's kind of like the black and white thing. It's okay to have BET-black entertainment tv, but what would happen if we came up with WET-white entertainment tv? It's okay to have the Image Awards for blacks, what if we had an awards show just for whites? It's the same thing. We've allowed it to take root too deeply. Please don't be too hard on the feminist movement. True equality means being treated the same, no more, no less. What we are seeing today in the form of male bashing is NOT what real feminists are about. I can tell from the way you write that you are very intelligent and as far as i am concerned, you have my respect. We are not all bad.

Answer 3

First of all, your question is a broad assumption that all women act one way and all men are wonderful. Second, what about the TV shows like 7th Heaven where the husband is a sound guide and respected father and husband as well as being a minister for a church?

And you can't base what some women do with some men on how you behave. In my lifetime, I have probably dated around 100 men. I was single after a divorce for 13 years. I divorced my ex because he was bi-polar (although he hadn't been diagnosed until years after our divorce) and he was verbally and physically abusive. He cheated on me and he definitely didn't cater to me hand and foot. I usually had a job that paid better than what he had and he turned down multiple opportunities to make more money. He didn't want the responsibility. Nobody has to slam you in order to let you know that your version of the world is just that. It's a generalized statement of only what you see because you evidently feel sorry for yourself and someone has rejected you. It doesn't have anything to do with all women being the way you described. Because all women are not hateful shrews and all guys are not mean and abusive. Even after being married for 9 1/2 years to my first husband, I still know that he isn't like every man in the world. He's one guy in many and there are as many personalities as their are men. Each is different in their own way. I don't make blanket statements like, why do all men beat their wives...because I do know very kind husband's who treat their wives well and the wives who treat their husbands with great respect. Maybe you're just hanging out with the wrong people...the wrong women. I just know too many couples who are happy and respectful and too many women who are truly kind hearted and giving to accept your statement as being totally true.

My advice is for you to look for women at a place where women are more likely to be the kind of woman you're looking for. Have you tried church?

Answer 4

You can't base your perception of reality on sitcoms. Yes, men on sitcoms are portrayed as bumbling fools, and that is bad. But these sitcoms are often written and produced by men, as well.
You refer to men and women as singular units. Not all women ask to be treated "like little princesses" and by no means do all men "cater to women hand and foot."
I think you need to do some research on a couple of topics. One is 1960s feminism. 1960s feminism didn't ask men to "cater to women." It was a movement to promote equality in the workplace, reproductive rights, and an equal rights amendment, which did not pass. It had little to do with your sitcoms.
Another topic you should look at is domestic violence. Some men still do hit their wives and girlfriends.
Look, you can sit here and complain about the way you're portrayed on TV, but I will still not make as much money as the average man. I still have to take self defense classes to feel comfortable walking home from work at night. I still have to work harder to be taken seriously in many contexts.
No, you weren't around 2000 years ago, but please don't imply that oppression against women ended then. We couldn't even vote in the US until 1920. Oppression isn't as simple as "men oppress women." It's the collective oppressive ideals held by society, when we all have expectations for individuals of certain races, classes, or genders-- even when we are oppressing ourselves.
Turn off the TV and pick up a book!

Answer 5

I have never treated men with disrespect. You would sound more mature stating "Why do 'some' women demand respect.....but....i really don't want to disrespect your opinion, so carry on.
You say you work two jobs and still don't own ***** . My Husband and I own a 1/2 million dollar home, 3 luxury automobiles, and our own company,and don't have money to burn, but we could start a fire with it.
Maybe if you had a female in your life whom could give that third income(or the second one), so you wouldn't have to work two jobs, then maybe you would have something.....
One has to wonder what happened to you in your life that you feel the need to put all your energy towards comedy, based on pure fiction.
Say you focus that energy into something educational,and get a better paying job, that you could own some ****

And I don't play the Princess role...I play the Queen, right next to my King.....

Answer 6

Believe me, I hate feminists as much as most guys do- possibly more. You see, early feminists just wanted to give women rights that they did not previously have. (ie. The right to vote is one.) Those are reasonable requests- any person can agree with that. The next feminist movement was to stress family life- reasonable- as well as to give opportunities for widows and for women who had school age children to work. (While their children were at school.) These requests were still pretty reasonable.

Then comes the 1960s- and that entire movement was shattered. (In case you haven't noticed, those first movements were to give women a place in society and to make sure the government, public, etc. supported families.) The 1960s feminist movement was hell-bent on destroying families- basically wanting to break up the natural idea of families (where mothers were there for children and fathers worked). It was also supporting discrimination against men, and laid the pathway for all illegitimate children, teenage pregnancies, etc. Thanks to the role of families being almost completely forgotten, the issues I mentioned now have become huge problems. It not only disgusts me at how so many children are born...."out of place", but how many times I've been put in an awkward spot because I don't agree with what the brainwashed liberal media is trying to preach. I have no problem with mothers that work, but I know- first hand- that it is necessary to have a mother-figure in a family. (My grandmother and aunt have filled that place for me- both of which never allowed themselves to get involved with the femmies.)

-So, in the end, I do sympathize for any guy who wants to be safe from women like shrew-face Hillary Clinton. As long as you don’t beat- or cheat on- your partner, you shouldn’t be treated like trash- regardless of gender.

P.S. “Equality” means giving everyone equal opportunities- a guy shouldn’t be turned down from a job position because of his gender just as much as a person shouldn’t be turned down from a position because of their race. At the same time, you shouldn’t get a special “pass” or “break” and get almost immediately hired for a job position because of your gender or race. Also, for those of you saying women in the past were discriminated against: Most women were shielded from the work force and protected from manual labor, and at the same time I want to know why men would abuse the people responsible for bringing about the next generation. All cultures that were first-world ones applied this idea.

P.P.S. Has anyone besides me noticed that most modern feminists are SO UGLY that the first thing that crosses your mind before “what an idiot” is “I can see why men hate you!”?

Answer 7

I am a woman, and a lot of feminist women will hate me for saying this but I TOTALLY agree with you! Women are supposed to be the helpmeet, not the domineering diva! My hubby does treat me like a princess - but I guarantee that he has hot meals ready for him when it is time, the house and children are in order- I make sure that he is well taken care of so that he is ABLE to take good care of me and provide for and protect me and the kids- I respect his opinions and decisions he makes for the household. It does not make me any less of a person than him or any less important- we both take care of our roles- He takes care of me and the kids and I take care of him and that is the way it works best. When one tries to domineer the other things get out of order and chaos ensues.
Women need to stop trying to be the men and appreciate who they are and what God created them, and most of all they need to stop disrespecting men and teaching the children to disrespect the men. So just so you know though they may be few and far between- there are some women behind you on this one.

Answer 8

I am a woman and I agree w/ you on many points...esp. about the portrayal of men on tv. Maybe I can see this point of view, because I have 2 sons. I have seen my teen-age whistled at, by the neighbor girls when he was just out front of our house playing basketball......if he were my daughter and those were guys yelling comments at her, IT WOULD BE CONSIDERED SEXUAL HARRASSMENT!! What a double standard! (and they say it is a man's world.....HA!) I don't know what the answer is. I just try to teach my boys to ONLY deal w/ and let decent, respectful females into their lives AND FORGET THE REST!

Answer 9

it's a hasty generalization...not all women are dominating...men get sued for hitting a woman but a man can't sue a woman for hitting him...this is the effect of the 'man-is-the-stronger-sex' theory...men are believed to be physically stronger and women are regarded as the weaker sex...that's why there are more rules for a woman's protection...

but i agree with you...feminists shout for equality but they complain if a man doesn't offer his seat to her...ironic, eh?

Answer 10

I am a woman and I understand what you mean........on the other hand do you understand what I mean, if it is not for the fact that most men play the role of being chauvinistic way before 1960's, oh sure, damages can be fixed.