How do get over been raped?

Question

I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND BUT I AM SCARED TO GET TO CLOSE BECAUSE OF THE RAPE AND HOW WAS TREATED BY GUYS AFTER THE RAPE WHAT SHOULD I DO TO LET IT GO?

Answer 1

you need to seek help, before you let it go you have to address it, and let everything out to clear it from your head, get counceling and let it all out and it will help you to get invovled in a relationship, you cant hold what happen to you against the guy you are seeing and thats why you have to get help now. good luck.

Answer 2

First, can you trust your boyfriend with this info? Because some
stupid guys will throw this in your face when they get mad at
you. If you FEEL like telling him them do. But think about it. If
you are still scared from what happened, maybe you need to
take a breather here...It all depends also on how long you've
been with him? If he is any kind of a gentleman he will show
you unconditional love, and emotional support, you need both.
I have been thru the same, almost got killed, but by the Grace
of God I am here. That happened to me when I was 16 yrs, and
now I am 44, do the math....So, I hate to say that, no you won't
forget it. But for God's sake don't let it keep you from having a
good, decent, loving life. Don't let the perpetrator get away with
it. Don't let them win!! You are the winner here....You lived!!
Please don't be afraid anymore. I just try and be happy and
live my life, that's all you can do...If I can do it...so can you!!
Don't let it ruin your life. You still have a lot of good times ahead
And the ********who did that to you is the LOSER..HIS DAY IS
COMING. God bless you and keep you safe.
PS. please print this out and look at it everyday....

Answer 3

Forget about the boyfriend scene and try to get married. If thhis current boyfriend is the one, he will be all for this. If this boyfriend you have has no intention of marrying you, then he doesn't love you "like that." If you continue to do the boyfriend scene, then you will expose yourself to situations like potential heart ache, rape, disease etc. This is the reality. Find a man you can trust and whom you feel comfortable with spending your life with. If you are not ready to marry, then sometimes we have to learn the hard way. There is no excuse for men to rape. But there are things women can do to help prevent these acts. Lkie not being alone with men, or going to parties alone or with a bunch of guys. This is not an excuse for the guys, but women have to be careful.

Answer 4

Talk to someone whom you trust about the rape. If it was never reported, report it so that the perpetrators can receive their just punishment for the crime. Get some professional counseling. If your boyfriend loves you and values you as a friend, he will try to understand and cooperate with your needs for time and healing. You should be able to discuss this with him. If you talk about it, get support and exhaust it, you will, one day, be able to put it to rest as a simple bad experience that does not affect your worth as a person.

Answer 5

well i'm not sure do you want to get over it no offensive it was a bad thing that happend to you and i'm sorry it did but to actually get over something like that your going to want to get over it did the guy get punished? did you tell the police? and if you didn't how do you expect to get over it unless you talk to them or confront the guy who raped you because you don't want it to consume your life as far as your new boyfriend my advice would tell him what happend maybe he'll understand not all guys are assholes and by telling him it will probably make your releationship stronger i know you probably feel that if you get close that he may hurt you but in order to move on you should tell him

I hope everything works out

brian/bridget

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Answer 6

Rape is not about sex – its about control and is very dangerous. Usually the people who commit such acts have a false sense of self image, are arrogant, and can become violent when confronted. No you will not get over it as it changes people – but you will learn to live with it.

See a psychologist and invest in some pepper spray.
(And report it to the police.)

Answer 7

it takes time but eventually you will get over it not all the way but enough to feel comfortable to get close to someone. it took me a few years to become comfortable i married and i still wasnt quite healed and i am divorced and have a boyfriend and it was hard at first. he helped me get used to the fact that i was going to be okay. if this didnt help much i am sorry

Answer 8

I am told you can't get over that. If I know a girl has been through that I treat like a parent who died. I don't bring it up unless she does.

Its ashame you can't get revenge, because I personally think certain people deserve vengeance.

klm63 - should work for the FBI

Answer 9

it was'nt your fault, I got raped at 18 still a virgin, he doped me up and jumped me, and for years I allowed men to use me, and suddenly I woke up and said I am not a bad person and will not let anyone take advantage of me because I am special and I love me so that is how I got over it

Answer 10

you can't just let it go----its not that simple---i sugest you see a therapist have your bf go with you. If he is suportive he will---mine did.

You will never for get is or just let it go----but you will learn to live with it and learn to trust guys again----i belive that for sure because you want to not be scared and im sure if you seek help you will get it

take care
and if ya need somone who has been there----email me at [e-mail]

take care and i wish you good luck