Okay, me and my girlfriend hav been dating for three months and we've been through some tough times. Like and abusive home and molested, and I helped get her out of there. And we enjoy each other. We can sit down and just talk about stuff. My family loves her, and her 5 sisters like me also. The situation right now is her charging her date with abuse and molestation, and right now she sort of changed, I don't know if she's drained, from the situation or she's not feeling me. She doesn't show the same affaction like she use too. I love her more than anything and it seems like the relationship slowed down a bit, is this a good thing. She barely has anything to say on the phone, I can ask to talk about something and she has nothing to ask, or just to talk about something. I want are relationship to last more than anything, but we are still getting to know eachother more, but she barely asks questions about me, are we meant to be?
2006-07-13 17:58:44 · 23 answers · asked by sugarbear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From a woman point of view who been through it, listen she didnt forget about you and yes she still digs you it is just alot is going on right now that she need to solve within herself and if you care like you say you do then you will stand by her and help her through it because right now you leaving her will not help her it will only hurt her and then she will feel like there is no one who would stand by her. So keep being there stick around and dont give up because if the shoe was on the other foot you wouldn't want the person you care about walking out on you now would you??
Everything will be alright and I will keep you and her in my prayers so god will help. May it work out for you and your girl Bless you.
2006-07-13 18:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by jasmine l 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off this is all about you, which I understand, your looking at it from your side.
But, in her mind, less than 3 months ago, she got out of prison for the FIRST TIME IN HER LIFE. She's in shock or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (look it up on Yahoo!). Its a condition that abused (mentally and physically as well as sexually) children and adults get when going thru hellish conditions. She's numb, both physically and emotionally and can't respond because she's closing off. Take her to her General Practioner Doctor and explain how she just got out of this situation and what she's going through, he can give her something to get her emotions back.
Good luck.
2006-07-14 01:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has been through a pretty tense time and I would imagine she is habing a hard time dealing with all of this. Give her time and be there for her. She needs loyal friends right now to be there for her. Don't push her too hard about this, just keep on being her friend and be there to help her as much as you can. Good luck to the both of you.
2006-07-14 01:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me she has alot of emotional stuff going on inside of her.. something that only time alot of time cures.. she could be sinking into depression.. and when people get depressed they just want to become really withdrawn and not deal with the world even people they love.. now u have a choice, u can try and see her through this, but your going to have to realize this isnt something that gets cured over night , sometimes takes years.. or u can split now.. ur choice..
2006-07-14 01:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the girl has been in an abussive home she may just be pulling back to take time to think things through for herself, I think the best thing to do is ask her if she needs time to think about things and if she says yes allow her a couple of days and then try to call her and if she still feels pulled back then most likely it is not meant to be or like you said she is not feeling you. hope this helps.......
2006-07-14 01:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by bobby_brenda_slone2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may just have a lot on her mind right now. I'd just leave it for a few weeks until things calm down, then i'd talk to her about it. Just be open and honest, and let her know you are there for her no matter what. If you were meant to be, she will come around.
2006-07-14 01:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by vicksta1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may just need some space. She is going through alot right now and the best you can do is support her but don't force her to talk to you if she doesn't want to. If you are meant to be with her you will make it somehow.
2006-07-14 01:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by Allie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Try to make some Quality time with her and see how she is. Maybe shes got a lotta stress. Give her the opportunity to open up to you and reassure her that you are there for her and whatever she says to you, you will understand.
2006-07-14 01:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by microsvc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S A GOOD CHANCE THAT SHE IS DRAINED FROM ALL THE EMOTIONS SHE'S BEEN FEELING AND SHE COULD ALSO BE LOOKING AT YOU IN A DIFFERENT LITE, MORE AS A FATHER /GUARDIAN AND LESS OF A BOYFRIEND/HUSBAND AND NOW HAS TO PROCESS THESE FEELINGS TO TRY AND UNDERSTAND WHERE SHE WANTS TO GO, GIVE HER TIME TO BREATHE AND ALLOW HER TO COME BACK TO YOU, **** SOMETHING ELSE IN THE MEANTIME!
2006-07-14 06:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her some space. I have been were she is and somedays you aren't sure about anything. You need to be there for her and she needs to know that but you also needs to give her the space. You need to let her set the pace... Give her time and it may work out for the two of you..
Good luck.
2006-07-14 01:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by angelsmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋