MY friend has a problem and im not sure how to help her. she has been seeing this guy secretly for 3 years she really loves him and he really her, but last week they found that their parents have been secretly dating for 2 years and are now geeting married. Their parents said they couldnt see each other any more because it isn't right now that they are getting married what advise should i give her? Also he is 17 and she is 16.
2006-07-13 17:51:55 · 27 answers · asked by tlca_6002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Who cares if their parents are getting married...There is no reason why they can't hook up. They are almost adults. Tell her to hang in there. When they are legal age, they can do whatever they want.
2006-07-13 18:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by hippychic 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
If the parents are getting married, it would seem that the children will now be living together so "not seeing" each other is not feasible.
It certainly is a strange situation but obviously the attraction between the two families spans two generations.
They are close to being the age when they will be heading off to college abyway. If they are still in love with each other after living in the same household for two years, then that will prove it isn't a passing phase.
All those secrets are not a sign that the relationships between parents and children are very good. Lots of problems here. Oh dear!
2006-07-14 00:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by JaneB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone I know had this happen to them...the guy and girl ended up getting married tho, it lasted one year...they are divorced now but are still very close. They just couldn't do the married thing.
My opinion here is the parents have been dating secretly...so who should stop seeing whom? The kids should be able to continue seeing each other, after all they aren't blood related if this marriage goes through.
I wish them all luck
2006-07-14 00:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that would suck big time..... think about it.. they will be living together.. they see each other all the time.... they can still sneak around behind the parents backs.. and when they are old enough they can move out together and do what they want..
It is OK because they are not blood related.. they will be step brother and sister. but that's cool because no one has to know about it. and the parents might even brake up in the years to come ... i do not think there is a law for them to get married either because there is no blood.
2006-07-14 02:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by ~Mrs.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON! They should be secretly thinking about going to college. That's a question straight out of a V.C Andrews novel. Ask the Author.
2006-07-14 00:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel both of them shud tell their parents whats been going on between them. Thtas the only solution, cuz if their parents get married, its gonna be a disaster,.. Probably all together, they cud come up with a good solution
2006-07-14 00:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strange situation.
I do not see that parents would have "priority".
Your friend is very young, she could just say that the relationship is "just friendship", until the parents settle in their new life and everybody gets used to the new situation. Then see.
2006-07-14 01:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strictly speaking their relationship will become illegal once their parent marry. The really stupid thing you will find out is that its perfectly legal to MARRY and have CHILDREN with a BLOOD cousin, but a sister/brother by marriage only is illegal. Dumb.
2006-07-14 00:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by Chaosman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 17 and she is 16 too young. After they are finish school or college maybe some will be change. Their parents are adults, sorry. But 16,17 they are kids.
2006-07-14 01:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by Freesia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explaining the situation to the parents won't help. they have to get over it and move on, they shouldn't have kept it a secret this long, and this wouldn't have happened, that's why you always have to be open to talk to your parents about anything, if they would have been dating openly, the parents would have never gotten together.
2006-07-14 01:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by mznatural30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋