have any women here endured years of phys. abuse or verbal abuse and escaped to tell about it?

Answer 1

Yes. It is not easy to talk about because it isn't logical. You never think it is beyond what you can handle and you keep believing it can be better. My husband was verbally and emotionally abusive. He knew better than to be physically abusive because he went to jail over hitting me (my neighbor called the sheriff and he had to go because I had physical marks.) We got back together because we had been married ten years and he was in counseling. But the emotional abuse never stopped. I could understand the control and low self esteem problems involved but it was still very hard for me to finally make the break and move out (I had to, he never would have left even if I asked him to.) It has been eight years now and I have a partner who is caring and non-judgmental of me. I no longer have to walk on eggshells. Life gets better all the time.

Answer 2

I have been married for 6 going on 7 years and I have endured a emotionally/verbally abusive relationship which I can say finally ended today. My husband is extremely immature and every time we have problems he runs away. I have 2 small children which is why we always got back together. He had in the past though shoved and slapped me when I was pregnant with our second child. As I remember this horrible incident it just makes me stronger to move forward and stay away from this sick man. My strength comes from GOD and being strong for my 2 daughters. My advice to you is to seek counseling because these unhealthy relationships take a toll on your self esteem. Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 3

I had 13 years of physical and verbal abuse, I got to the stage 18 months ago that I either leave or I would commit suicide. I was in a mental state of depression.
I opted to leave and have never gone back, this is a very big step but if this is happening to you. Get out. I am not going to say that this was easy because dear god it was the hardest thing I have ever done. When I left my husband he told everybody that I had left for another man. Which was the biggest load of crap. Men who abuse never blame themselves. You also could do with domestice violence help as well.
If this is happening to you and you leave. Never go back, men that abuse woman say they can change. Most don't.
Take care.

Answer 4

I have. My daughters father was what I thought the love of my life. Boy, was I wrong. While with this "sperm donor", He rigged a shotgun up to kill me when I came home one day...the gun malfunctioned, thank GOD, I was 7 months pregnant and the gun was pointing at my stomach. I was spit on, pushed down, held at gun point and cheated on numerous times. I thought I would die without him. Again, boy was I wrong. After the birth of my daughter I got up the courage to leave because he almost hit me with my daughter in my arms. I gained the strength to walk away and never look back....There is life after abuse, no one should put up with it, verbal or physical. I would almost rather someone slap me in the face than verbal abuse me too, I got both. Life is supposed to be better than that...

Answer 5

I have been verbally abused. I was married for 7 years and the entire relationship my ex verbally abused me. He cursed me out every time he was mad at me and i got panic attacks because of it and i had no self esteem and confidence. I lost all me friends and he was controlling and possessive. He cheated on my and divorced me and i got back together with him and he cheated again. Right now we are friends and will never let myself go through this agaiN!

Answer 6

I'm in an 8 year(together 12), verbally and emotionally abusive relationship as we speak. He has also been physical as in choking me in the past. We have 2 small children together and he has no respect for me and he hollers and calls me names in front of them. I am in the process of making a decision to leave him now and go and live with my mother. I am in therapy for about 6 weeks now and I am realizing that it is not me, it's him. HE is the one who is sick! I always thought that maybe if i would do something better, that he would love me like he's supposed to. Believe me, nothing is ever good enough and it is not our faults! I am becoming more in touch with God and Jesus and I know that they love me unconditionally and if they love me like that, I know that's how love is supposed to be and I will survive and get out of this toxic marriage. Lots of love and God bless you !!

Answer 7

i have, my sons dad beat me even when i was pregante, it got so bad he was hitting me on the head as i was holdinh my son, he did care but thought that thats what i deserved and finally one day i got so mad at ought back that it shocked the shi.t out of him. i hit him back and took off running(thank god my son wasnt there) i took off and never look back.I am not married to a wonderful man and he nevr hits me or treats me the way my ex did.my ex still tried to control me by holding my son against me( we both have joint custody but i have primary custody) he is currently in jail and writes to my son. i know he was all wrong for me the day he started hitting me. im glad i left and took my son away from the abuse. i was stupid for about two years that i was with him, but now i am much smarter and will teach my two daughters and son not to be involved in a relationship of abuse, it will get you know where.

Answer 8

Yes, the father of my daughter i was with him for a total of 5 years.. He was definately a Dr. Jekyl Mr Hyde type personality.. One minute he was sweet, caring, charming and funny, and in a instant he was a Monster that couldnt control himself when angry... Everything was good at first, he seemed perfect, we moved in together and all was fine, nothing out of the usual.., then i got pregnant and about 6 months into my pregnancy he started getting very controling, very verbally abusive...after our little girl was born it continued to pushing at first, to head butting, throwing things at me, physically restraining me ect.. if i tried to leave he'd run to the car and take off before i could, when i tried to get to the phone he'd rip it out of the wall.. he knocked my self esteem down as far as he could telling me i was ugly and repulsive and how no guy would want me that i worthless ect.. called me every name imaginable.. I stayed because of my daughter i didnt want her to grow up in a broken home..i figured if i just went numb that i could get through all the pain and one day he'd wake up and see how badly he was hurting me and stop it all.. but he didnt.. I was so depressed i didnt want to even get out of bed, didnt want to talk to my family or friends on the phone, didnt want to leave my house.. finally one day i went for a walk.. and i was standing on the edge of a cliff, and all i thought about was if i just took that one last step it would all be over.. no more pain, he had torn my self esteem down so badly i even thought my kids would be better of with out me, that someone else would be a better mother for them.. then i thought about them and what it would do to them emotionally to lose me, i was the only stability they had in their life.. and how crushed they'd be and how they'd never get over it..and i slowly walked away from the edge of the cliff and with every step i got stronger to the point that i packed what i could in my car mostly clothes and some of their toys.. put my kids in the car and finally left...i was scared at first not knowing what my future held.. what i was going to do i had very little money , no job or house to go to .. but enough gas money to get me accrossed the country to my mom's house so thats what i did i drove 2 and a half days home and it was the best decision i ever made in my life..

Answer 9

yes i have.