My husband and I and our group of friends have
known each other for many many years. It is mostly
a group of guys, and I was one of the only girls. We
were all best friends and I was always admirably
labeled as " one of the guys' because i had
a very like-wise peronality and like the things
that guys like.
However after my husband and i got married
( he was one of the guys in the group ) now
they all hang out with each other but
do not want ME there? My personality
is no different why does he get invited
but not me? And why dont they invite me
and not him? Why am I looked at as not
one of the guys any more?
2006-07-13 17:28:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm going to answer honestly, please do not take offense.
Before you were most likely considered either a friend by the guys in the group, or you were considered to be "fair game" by the guys in the group.
After you married one of the guys in the group, you became off limits to those who looked at you as fair game, and you became something more than a friend to one of the group, which alienated you from the rest.
2006-07-13 17:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by AirborneSaint 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe they think now that you are married that you think you can change him like most women try to do. So they now see you as "His Wife" and not "One of the guys", Just show them you are still cool. Plan a poker night and invite them all. Make them a good dinner and snacks and beer and then they will see how cool you are and they will let you hang out with them again. My husbands friends love me, they always tell him how great I am. All because I cook for them and I'm still cool :) Goodluck
2006-07-14 00:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by dohm84 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't you go to the pub with your girlfriends as well and maybe all meet up together as a group. i think it is important for men to have their time together away from their wives and girlfriends. as long as you are both doing something together a couple of times a week without the 'guys'.
otherwise simply ask your husband if HE feels anything has changes since you've been married? maybe they feel a bit awkward since your relationship has moved forward? maybe they don't feel they can laugh and joke around like theyn used to with you there?
2006-07-14 00:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by helen s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probaly because your hubby doesnt want 1 of the guys jumping your bones
2006-07-14 00:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋