2006-07-13 17:17:53 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she's a real best friend for you, you could talk to her and tell her what you hated about her. It would either save the friendship or lose it.
2006-07-13 17:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by czaroma 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi . This could happen because of 4 reasons :-)
1. She is not really ur best friend - And u hang around with her because of lack of better choice. Or that u were best friends long time back and today ur interests/attitude just dont match. SUGGEST u part ways slowly.
2. She is ur best friend but there are some traits in her which u dislike. These cld be her being extra-loud, loud-mouth, fussy, etc SUGGEST u find out what exactly these traits are and then evaluate if they are important enough for you (however do remember tht everybody has negative traits, u just need to offset the negative with the positive). If they are then i suggest u slowly start movng away.
3. She is too nice a girl and deep inside u r jealous of her. SUGGEST u realise tht good friends are hard to come by and if she is a nice girl then u cant let ur jealousy ruin it for u.
4. She has the hots for ur crush ! Or your crush ahs the hots for her. SUGGEST u tell her honestly and then too if she doesnt lay off then split ways.
2006-07-13 17:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them how you feel about them at the beach during sunset, or an Autumn walk in the park, if you don't want a scene. If they start to outburst, pause your speech for a second or two, and continue at your civil tone. It will relax them unconsciously, plus give you time to interpret the situation as well as think of something best suited to say as a rethort. Maybe this is all bs, I mean, why do you hate them in the first place, and then consider them a friend?
2006-07-13 17:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by salvagedrover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to "hate" one of your best friends she/he must've done something to you to make you feel that way. I had a "best friend" that stabbed me in the back, big time. After that, I couldn't really call her a best friend. It depends on what has been done, whether it can be forgiven or not. If you want to save this friendship, talk to the person about whatever the situation is that made you "hate" them. Some things can't be forgotten. As in my situation, I've tried to be forgiving, but she will NEVER be my "best" friend again, or anything near it.
2006-07-13 17:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by Me in TN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat as you. Well kind of. its probably a different circumstance. What I did is start hanging out with her less and less, so your relationship crumbles. When she wants to hang out, just tell her your busy or too tired. Don't completely ignore her though. It is okay to hang out every once in a while.
When she confronts you about it, or once you are comfortable. You can tell her that maybe its better if you aren't friends anymore, because you don't seem to have anything in common. If she gets offended, ignore it, because it will no longer be your problem. If she doesn't freak out, tell her that you can still hang out at parties and stuff.
2006-07-13 17:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you really hate them or you just upset with them? If they are your best friend you probably just need space. But if you are insistent that you cant stand them, then at least be mature enough and tell them that the friendship has come to an end, and maybe even tell them why
2006-07-13 17:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jen R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Questions, why do you hate her? What have she done? Are you going to jeopardize your friendship just for that? If the issue's not that big, why not talk to her about it, let her know what you feel, maybe both of you can come up with a solution. If the issue is big, and you think there's no way to patch things up, talk to her to thank her for the friendship and say your goodbye. After all, the two of you are bestfriends.
2006-07-13 17:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by enigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why you hate anyone. Hate is such a wasted emotion, and it is like peeing on yourself, the only person who feels that hatred that you have is you...........It is robbing you of peace, serenity, and inner peace. You say she's your best friend; but how can she be your best friend if you say you hate her.....Get some emotional help, sounds as though you could use it.
2006-07-13 17:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it's really your best friend, I wouldn't choose the word "hate". You are probably having a disagreement or he/she upset you. Real best friends can overcome anything
2006-07-13 17:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by donise225 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You dont need somebody you hate in your life. Have enough grace and class to rise above pettiness and just get some beter friends. good luck
2006-07-13 17:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋