I will never get naked in front of my husband. I hate my body. I am not fat no... but I feel that until I have the perfect Victorias secret type body, I just wont do it. He is very unhappy that I wont. I am totally uncomfy with it. Any suggestions? Even DRUNK AS A PIG, that didnt help., I still wouldnt do it.
2006-07-13 17:16:52 · 45 answers · asked by Amieann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God some of these answers are cruel as hell. We didnt have sex before we got married. My husband told me that he likes big boobs. That is my major problem.
2006-07-13 17:21:51 · update #1
Also, my husband said that his ex girlfriends were all models with perfect bodies. That is my major problem right there.
2006-07-13 17:28:06 · update #2
If you are afraid to do this, it means you are afraid of his opinion of your body, which explains why you posted under Marriage & DIVORCE.
2006-07-13 17:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mark W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This doesn't have anything really to do with the fact that you are not wanting to get naked in front of and with your husband. This has more to do with, your own self body image and self esteem! I think you want to work on that, and surround yourself with people who will help boost your self-esteem. You may also try counseling as a way to get out things that may have happened in the past that contributed to you feeling this way about your body. It will help you to see, that no matter what, your husband will always accept you and love you, that's what marriage is all about!!! Also, it is our society that makes you and all of us women think that you have to have the perfect body, the perfect size, and age and all of it. It isn't right nor fair to anybody. You may be a very impressionable woman and you are thinking that a "Victoria's secret-type body" is what your husband wants! I am sure your hubbie married you for more reasons, for that long term commitment, than your body or any of that. So take care of YOU and the rest, will follow. Good luck to you and your marriage!
2006-07-13 17:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to think back in your past to what may have given you such a poor self image. The female body is truly the most beautiful thing in the world and I know your husband feels that way about you.
You say your husband likes big breasts and that is the problem. Meaning yours are not. Were you so good at making yourself look big that he does not know how big your breasts are? And if he does why do you think he married you. He loves you. Your breasts are not what he married.
Your husband is feeling pretty bad I think that you do not trust him enough to share yourself with him. I know this is not something you can just talk yourself out of but you must let him try to help you. You have no idea how much that would please him.
You don't have to start of by being completely nude. Start with one thing and when you get comfortable with that then try one more thing. Being nude in from of your husband should be as easy or perhaps more so than having sex with him.
Ask yourself why you hate your body. Very few women have Victoria secret body type. And guess what. There husbands love their body's.
Take you time but work this out. You will be very glad if you can come to enjoy this. It will build your self esteem also.
Why your husband would tell you about all his ex-girlfriends is beyond me. It has no relevance as he married you. Something about you meant more that they did.
Guys tend to be lodgical. He may be trying to say, hey listen I use do date all these models but look who I married. He really has no idea that is not the way to make you feel better. And I doubt he does it to make you feel bad.
2006-07-13 17:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being naked all by yuorself for a while or maybe naked eith your husband in the dark and then, the time, a little brighter light. or just try flashing him or mooning him real quick to make it fun. of course, these are the "pull the band-aid off slowly methods. Want to rip the band-aid off? Then just rip your clothes off or tell your husband to steal all of your clothes when you're taking a shower. or go to a nude beach or resort.
About the big boobs thing... trust me, most guys who like big boobs like all boobs. Besides, behinds are just boobs without nipples.
Well if you're husband went with all these perfect ex-models and chose you, I think you might be pretty hot and that he's really attracted to you. I'm starting to suspect this is a bogus question - like pretty much all the ones I ask!
2006-07-13 17:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If He had such great hookups before you why did he choose you?? Learn that Your body is as good as most other females. Men lose the judgmental powers when they focus on a naked form. Be proud of what you have and not ashamed because you think of your imperfections. It is the imperfections that make You special. He picked you because you fit His image and even with the lights out he probably knows your form much better than you could guess. The sooner you realize that life is full of less than perfect people and it is the mind that controls love not the sex organs the better you will be.
2006-07-13 17:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Girl don't listen to those mean people...i used to have the same problem....(and no I'm not fat or have the body of a pig)
it's just hard!!! IT IS for some girls...Hell , not anybody is like a "girl gone Wild" ...so this is what I did...I used to blow some candles and wear something really sexy, so that he will not get all the attention on my body!!! and then little by little I just let myself GO...you have to be able to trust yourself girl...every girl is beautiful inside out, and if your husband is in love with YOU then he will love your body and your confidence...But if he is the one telling you that ur body is ugly then screw him..if not enjoy your body now that u are young...I mean...How bad can it be? OK? C'mon be more wild and he will love it!!! LOVE yourself first of all...ok? Good luck Girl!!
2006-07-13 17:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look - here is the thing about Marriage and Sex - when you get married, one of the many commitments you are making to one another is that you will only share your bodies with each other. You seem to forget that your husband had a choice in all of the women in the world and he choose you. Perhaps you should talk to your husband about this.
2006-07-13 17:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Winter_Decay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really dont know exactly what to tell you. I know I was embarassed and had to start with one piece of clothing at a time. Just think about it this way, if he married you, he loves you....It doesnt matter what your body looks like...you say boobs are one of your issues (mine too). Find a push up bra thats really sexy.....you wont be completely naked, but you can still look sexy and work your way up (or down) to nothing.
2006-07-13 17:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds corny, but this relationship is doomed to failure because of a deep-seated problem of yours. You don't love yourself. I'm not sure you even like yourself. Your husband married you as you are - not as he thought you might be some other time. You will need to accept yourself as you are and learn to care for yourself before you can actually love your husband the way he should be loved. Get counseling or something to save your marriage.
2006-07-13 17:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Confidence is something that can be built like children playing with blocks in school.
First please realize that you do not need a Victoria Secrets body. You may want to tone your muscles, lose weight and many more things. But please take another look at your marriage, enjoy what you have right now. Let your man enjoy his woman, let yourself enjoy the feeling of togetherness that comes from getting close to him in total nudity.
Take care
2006-07-13 17:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's bad if you cant get naked in front of your man. You need to overcome your fear of being naked and stop putting yourself down. If your husband married you is because he loves you for who you are. You guys need to discuss this issue, perhaps seek professional help. Have you made the attempt lately, just give it a shot.
2006-07-13 17:23:18 · answer #11 · answered by DON 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋