I was a teen Mom and wife. I am currently and painfully divorced. It was not something I wanted but it is what I have been handed. I have cried, screamed and wished I could leave this Earth. But my tears have dried, and screaming hasn't helped and God has left me here for some reason. So,at 42 I am going back to school and going to learn how to take better care of me. This time what I earn will be mine and what I aquire along the way will be in my name only. I could not fight any longer and my ex took it all. To anyone in the same boat, "I wish you well and be strong, it does get better, you get better, time moves on, and living becomes possible once again." Good Luck.
2006-07-13 17:14:41 · 29 answers · asked by cowgirlup64 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh my God!!! I can't tell each and everyone of you how much all these answers have meant to me. I feel so totally inspired , supported and driven to achieve my dreams now. THANKS!!!!
2006-07-14 03:24:46 · update #1
I must applaud your decision.you sure exhibit a lot of strength. It's good that you are trying to reclaim your life and I hope you will inspire others who are in the same boat.
Your journey may at times be though, but do not loose courage, life is precious and we should make the most of it, also you have every right to mould your life as you like . It's never too late to do things we so want to do.
If ever you feel down just remember these though phases in life always pass, you seem to be a woman of courage though you sometimes may doubt it but this very action of your's has shown me that you have the capabilites to make the most of your life.
Good luck !
2006-07-13 17:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by aj 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do I think about you going back to school at 42 years of age? I say, amen that you have the health, mind, body, soul and energy to do it all like that!!! It sounds like you turned something that was really painful, the divorce and your pain turned into becoming a new you and finally taking care of you! I congratulate you for it. It takes a lot of work to try and stay in there and make things work and it sure seems like you did that with your ex-husband and now, it is time for you to take care of you! It takes a lot of strength and continued support from family and friends, but you can sense your positive energy about you even through this question, and that's a great thing! Good luck to you and the kids!!! You'll be in my thoughts and prayers. AMEN! I hope you are proud of yourself for what you have accomplished and what you are going to do! :)
2006-07-13 17:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great! I went back at 43!
I was 27 when I got married, and after 2 kids, I filed for divorce. I'm a teacher, and I had things to accomplish which I never would have with the likes of him. So now, like you, I went back to school, and I am 2 classes away from getting my Masters in Instructional Technology.
So I'm a witness that dreams do come true.
I say, YOU GO GIRL!
2006-07-22 14:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by classyjazzcreations 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for telling us your story, it so wonderful to hear that you have survived, and not only got through it but are making a success of your life! I am 44 and thinking of leaving after 26 years of marriage, the first 24 were ideal, but the last 2, well let's say that I wished to leave this place too. What worried me when you wrote your great come back story-was that you said God left you. No, honey he hasn't left you, God never leaves-God never moves away-God is always constant. It us as humans that move. Even with everything going on here, and it's not pretty, I know God is here..sometimes I think we don't have a good connection or maybe he thinks I am stronger than I do, but he is here. I don't mean to preach to you after everything you have been through, but I want you to consider having a talk with our Maker, and getting things squared away with him. So, you can move on to your new exciting life with a loving heart. Cowgirl up and talk to him, and be sure to thank him for the strength he has given you to handle all you have been through. Thank him for all the new opportunties that he has given you. Make peace...There I said my peice, and again, I am so helping to hear a positive story stuck in between all this sad ones. You are going to make it, and you are going to be great at it! God blessed you and he will continue....
2006-07-14 01:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I started college, I wasn't in the mindset. I was sick of going to school and my heart wasn't in it. However, I remember seeing older adults in classes with me, and my freshman classmates made fun of them for taking notes and actually listening to their professors.
My point being, I realized at that time that the adults were more focused and cared more about their education than us teens did. My father is almost sixty and he attends college every few years just to learn new things. You have more time and patience on your side now so GO FOR IT and enjoy it!
Going back to school won't make you a better person...but it might make you feel better. Going through trials and rough times in life will help to make you a better person and help you to be stronger....
So good luck and don't be afraid of anything....you've got much going for you! You'll appreciate it more at this time in your life, and you can be more focused....
2006-07-13 17:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by royal_crown78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kudos for getting your education
Double kudos for learning to take taking care of yourself.
I see that your ex took it all, had it happen about 15-years ago. Welcome to a man's world. We jut work our asses off to make up for it. That's all you need to do to be successful. I went form 30K a year with a stack of debts to 170K this year. Got a BS and an MBA married a person with of all things MORALS Yippi life is great again!
Wish you luck but luck is a four letter word spelled PLAN. Go baby Go !
2006-07-13 17:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take a few years to get your degree. It will be hard work. If you do it, where will you be in six years? If you don't do it, where will you be in six years? I have a doctorate, and I will never regret the education. It also provides me with a professional license and an excellent income, working part time. Of course, I did it before I was married . . . . Good luck!
2006-07-13 17:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is wonderful that you are going back to school and you are taking charge of your life, I am 48 and I am starting school in Sept. I am very excited and I think I am teaching my young daughters (12, 10, and 6) that you are never too old to learn!
2006-07-14 01:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU GO GIRL!!!
I am 40 and starting back for my masters.
Hey and I just attended my sister's graduation for her doctorate and she is a divorcee w/ two teenager's, a preteen and a full time job. She is 36 and did not finish her bachelor's till after her divorce.
You guessed it, she put the ex through school and now she is doing her own.
2006-07-13 17:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by Seeking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great! I have 3 college degrees and the most recent one is the best and was the easiest because of being older and having some life experiences. good for you and best of luck with everything!
2006-07-13 17:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋