ok so i want a guy who wants the same things in life as me. i want to have a big family, about 7 kids. i want to get married someday after college. a guy who will stick there by me, in my profession i might have to move somewhere else besides here. i dont move to fast in a relationship but i always tell them what i want out of life at some point. guys what do you think?
2006-07-13 17:04:50 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i didnt mean that there was no room for him to add things! all i know is that i want to be married and have a big family someday. as for the career part...some guys will want to stay in their hometown the rest of their life and i wouldnt be able to do that.
2006-07-13 17:22:23 · update #1
Sounds like you've already mapped out your life......just the way you want it. Now all you have to do is deal with the disappointment when it doesn't go exactly as you planned it.
Plan on being disappointed....alot. Life doesn't always go as planned. You've already sucked all the fun, adventure and spontaneity out of your life.........what makes you think anyone would want to share that with you??
2006-07-13 17:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure how old you are, but it does seem you have a healthy idea of what you want out of life. However..in saying that..Life has a funny way of knowing what it wants out of you! When I was 15..I met my husband. I didn't know it at the time. I had my life planned and I knew what I wanted. i was going to college..I was going to get married after that. I was going to own a house and a car and have a career! I wanted a man who had the same goals as me. College..then marriage and maybe kids down the line when we were 30. The point I'm trying to make is that no matter what you want or think you want. Love and life change that and you have to let it. Don't get so set in what you want that you arn't willing to compromise. You will someday find THAT guy who's dreams vary slighty different than yours, but none the less you'll love each other so much that compromise will be second nature. I'm now married for 4 years..just now in college and we have a beautiful 14 month old daughter. Things are coming my way..just not in the exact order or way i thought I wanted it. Good luck and I hope you find your dream man!
2006-07-19 11:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by all8418 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What profession do you have? You had better seriously reconsider the number of kids you want. Professions often take a back seat one or two kids - seven? One of you will end up being a stay-at-home parent or at the most a part time worker. Children take an enormous amount of attention if you plan on raising them right. You may be asking too much of yourself. There are men, and always will be, that have the same dreams and desires you've mentioned so if you're set on it you'll find him.
2006-07-14 00:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by iuud2noitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slow down you will have plenty of time to have kids enjoy being young for now once you finish college you may change your mind about the 7 kids what happens if you do get the job of your dreams will you have to travel allot if so what about the kids. You say that you don't move fast in a relationship so slow your road a bit. I would love to see you get all of the above but I do believe that you may be asking for a little to much......
2006-07-14 00:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by getatjayr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not at all. i think that its great that you know what you want out of life. There are men out there who do want the same as you. and there is someone perfect for you. he is what people classify as your soul mate. and when the time is right for the both of you, you will fall into each others arms. it might be now, it might be tomorrow or it might be in ten-twenty years. but if that is what you want then that is what you are going to get. However; just remember that relationships are about negotiation. you to need to negotiate to meet each others needs. so eg. if you want 7 keds and he wants five then you agree to have 6. if you know what i mean. dont stress i dont think you are asking for to much, you will find mr right soon.
2006-07-14 00:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by ness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if something is important to YOU, it's not asking too much. Just remember, you're not the only one with needs. There ARE good guys out there, just like me, who look for more in life and want relationships that don't center around pain, abuse, and rejection. He'll find you, when YOU'RE ready. Don't strive for perfection either. So what if there's a bunch of things that get to you about him. If he's worth it, you'll look past all of that and eventually laugh about it when you're old and grey and your kids are long gone. Besides, you probably have a mountain of imperfections he looks past himself. You have to take the good with the bad. You can't love people in slices.
Moral;
"A relationship, contrary to popular belief, IS NOT A PIE."
-Just My 0.02
2006-07-14 00:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by salvagedrover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing what you want from each other before you get engaged is a great start.
Better find out how much you will differ before invitations are sent out and how much you will tolerate of each other's differences.
I am curious what kind of profession a woman would have that would move her around AND allow time for 7 kids.
2006-07-14 00:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Gary R T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My piece of advice for you as a recently married male (4 years) is to be flexible. It's not bad to know what you want but don't sacrifice a potential lifelong relationship because he might want 4 kids or wants to settle in one location. If you are not flexible about what you want, you might as well make an application for your potential love-interest and have them answer the questions. It will save you time in one respect but cause a lot of wasted time in that you'll be looking for the perfect spouse......which isn't going to happen. Shoot for what you want but just remember that there are two people in a relationship and you have to take into account what he wants. Good luck, I hope God blesses you.
2006-07-14 00:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by okstateguy18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your plan is to have seven children you can just about flush your career down the toilet.
With seven children you're asking your partner for one hell of a financial commitment. Your asking him to possibly move away from his family, his choice of a career, etc.
At some point you're going to have to take his feelings into consideration, his plans for the future and your going to have to make some sort of compromise if nothing else.
You bet your *** you're asking alot.
Too much?
Kind of depends on the guy.
2006-07-14 00:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but, I think that youre looking for the "perfect guy on paper". I mean that you want to find your "life partner" without having the relationship and friendship and finding love. You're looking for a partner, not a lover. You've got to know the guy and his reactions to things like "the future".
2006-07-14 00:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by cpt.morgan04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋