I' am a 24 and me and my husband love eachother VERY much...But latley I feel like we don't respect eachother anymore...I will like to know how to get repect back....please tell me! I know he loves me a lot but he is changing! what's worng?
2006-07-13 17:03:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Besides all of the vulgar crap people have answered to you, sit him down and first seek to understand. find out where he is coming from. Then seek to be understood. Let him know how you are feeling. Then seek a compromise. Come up with some ways to bring the MUTUAL love and respect back into the relationship. If its needed find a mediator like a member of a clergy (if your religous) or a couselor. Bring passionate romance back into your lives, and things can get better. I don't know how long you've been married, but I've been married for years. Its worth fighting for. Good luck.
2006-07-13 17:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by disgruntled personage 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and hubby have a lack of communication going on... There has to be communication and respect from both sides in a relationship. Try sitting down and talking to one another without finding fault with one another. Love is something you have to work at daily but at same time can't be smothered then it becomes obsessive. I have found that no matter how long your married getting out together for a date...be it a picnic, movie, a night in a hotel or just a moonlit stroll...helps your love stay alive. without more details this is all I can suggest at the moment..Hope this helps... Good Luck...
2006-07-13 17:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by just_libs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, understand that this thing that your feeling happens to prety much every married couple. Second, be encouraged. You seem like you are uncomfortable with you and him drifting apart...you notice it...and your wanting to try and fix it. Awsome, and i applaud you for that. This is a very fixable problem as long as you and your husband.. (or even just you).. apply yourself to it.
Now.. the first advice i would give you is to understand the differences between men and women. I am 25, going on 7 years of marriage, and my husband and i were married for 5 years before things got difficult enough to force me to begin digging into the "how men work" vs. "how women work" thing. And it was worth it. To begin to understand the mind of your husband is an amazing thing... but its also sometimes easy to get offended by because they work so much differently than we do. They think differently .. process information differently.. hear things differently.. solve problems differently.. stay at a different emotional level than we do... have different priorities in the relatinship than we do.. and much more. BUT>> it is like that for a reason.. good reason. So first, spend some time reading good books (i recomend from a chrisian book store) about understanding your mate or something of that nature. When you begin to understand how he works... you can better see what causes certain reactions from him and why this may be happening. .. AND.. you can know better how to serve your husband and love him the way he desires to be loved. (Isn't this what we want too?)
Next.. well, if you get this part down and apply yourself to the informatin you learn... i think you can figure out the next steps on your own... because he is your husband.. and you will be able to best evaluate the situation at hand and determine the best answer or path to start down. But, whatever it may be, realize that men above all.. desire to feel respected, adored, looked up to, useful, and needed. Examine your speech and actions to see if they reflect this. They like flattery in these areas.. even if they dont say so..lol. Men (most) are insecure just like most women are...and since they are leaders and protectors in the family.. their insecurities can produce bigger problems within them.. since so much is placed on them. Build your husband up. Let him know how much you enjoy him. And.. like it or not.. sex is one of the most important aspects of the marriage relationship to most men.. even more than the "emotionally intune talks" that we women so like.. but it is how they are wired. Make sure your not withholding this from him, using it against him, or not participating. Sex is a goal oriented thing to most husbands too.. and the good ones have a goal of making sure their wife enjoys themselves..and have some mental score card. Silly to me..lol..but its how it is. Talk to your husband about this area.. im sure that even if he is not a talker.. he'll talk about this one. lol.
Good luck dear. Dont loose heart. Last, i would encourage you to seek Gods design for marriage. He invented it.. its best handled by pressing tward the goal which He intended it to work for. A good christian friend, pastor, or christian book on marriage ("The Marriage Builder" by Dr. Larry Crabb is awsome) can do a great deal as far as establishing a good marriage foundation to work on and build on .. one that will endure through such trials that will inevediably come.
2006-07-13 18:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by simple_girl_from_texas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what happened for him to lose respect of you? Maybe you two need some alone time like get away on a lil vacation. Romantic dinner some good quality time. Do something you BOTH enjoy! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-13 17:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by â?¥á?¦á?¦â?¥ CRISSY â?¥á?¦á?¦â?¥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gotta go with the old BJ answer.
Any chick who does that gets my respect.
2006-07-13 17:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by Winter_Decay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mama,
All u got to do is what u do everyday, u know I love u
n I do my best to keep my family happy
2006-07-14 10:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by maurovalle3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both need to sit down and talk this out there is something that is bothering him and till you talk this out together it wont get no better . my opion?
2006-07-13 20:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swallow. That will most likely do the trick.
2006-07-13 17:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take this seriuosly!! Give him deep blowjobs and swallow it. Just surprise him. he will love it, trust me.
2006-07-13 17:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by JV 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suck his dick
2006-07-13 17:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by askmeanything 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋