He didn't introduce up either. I didn't know what was going on. I thought they were relatives. He didn't tell me until she life that she was his ex-woman. I as livid with anger.
Was I wrong to be angry?
2006-07-13 16:59:44 · 16 answers · asked by IwishIwaspretty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HELL NO!! I would be p!ssed off too. And I would be looking for a new husband...cuz this one obviously isnt worth your time!
2006-07-13 17:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by SKITTLES 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. you didnt give enough detail but ill assume she just cordially came up to him with a hello and kissed him on the cheek like u would your grandmother.. if thats the case i wouldnt be so upset by the kiss as i would be at the fact that he didnt introduce you and left you standing there like a bump on the log, thats where the disrespect comes in..and for that you do have a right to be angry, he should of immediately introduced the two of you .. im thinking though, he probably felt really awkward, if your anything like me, u are a semi jealous woman (a keep your hands off my man) kinda girl.. and he probably knows this and when he saw her he probably went into heartfailure thinking OH GOD NO PLEASE DONT COME OVER HERE MY WIFE IS GOING TO HAVE A FIT.. and then she did and he went into heart attack mode and went brain dead.. then he was in shock that he managed to survive the whole thing with out getting punched.. then he prayed that you'd forget what happened and not even ask who she was cause he was dreading having to tell you who it was.. So he found himself in a very sticky situation and unfortunately didnt handle it very well.. so i'd only make him hear about it for the next 5 years instead of 10.. :) and only make him kiss alittle bit of azz.. dont make him suffer to badly..
2006-07-13 17:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he kiss back? Was he shocked? Apparently not if he couldn't remember his wife was standing next to him and that it would have some kind of effect on you, most likely hurt, pain, confusion!!! To say the least!!! No you were not wrong!!! That was total disrespect on both their parts to you, and myself due to the fact that he didn't tell you until she left, he was either embarrassed or maybe closed doors aren't really closed all the way. Look at your relationship with your minds eye and not with you hearts eye, one sees reality and one sees feelings. Looks like you might need to know "is he is or is he ain't" BB King. Be sure to let him know that it wasn't the kiss so much as the fact that they both acted as if you went there and the disrespect that he showed to you she saw it and I'm sure that made her feel more important than his wife. Some men have a bad habit of thinking that women are jealous because we think they are in voled sexually, when most of the time it's the foolish way they act, the way they are over zealous in the way they treat someone else, or things said or not said. Don't let him feel good about 2 things (kiss from ex and wife jealous).
2006-07-13 17:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by shot gun annie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it is only natural to be a bit upset when something like that happens.
How long did this "scenario" last? Did she just spot him; come up and say hello to him; hug him; give him a friendly peck and move on? Were you right with your husband when this went down, or were you on down the isle, distracted by shopping or what?
Some people do not have good "people" skills, especially stupid people. If you were right there with him, she should have prompted him to introduce you to or just done it herself. She is the one that approached you all. The fact that she did not enquire with you or about you to him goes to show you that she is either really stupid, does not really give a darn about him, had intentions of upsetting you or some mix/all of the above.
Why did your husband not introduce you to her? There could be several reasons for that as well. He might have felt sorry for his ex so he didn't want to show her up by introducing you to her. He might just have been so suprised by the entire thing that he wasn't reacting normally. He might have feared your reaction towards her or vis versa. He may not have been sure how to put the words together, this is valid...think about it, "Wife, I would like for you to meet girl, my exfiance...exfiance, meet girl, my wife." ewwww that is not fun, huh?
I say, bust him up about it. Get angry. Let him know that you did not appreciate the behavior, and it will not be acceptable ever again. However, do not harbor anger towards him. Get it all out on the table now, and then forgive him, just don't forget. It isn't like he had anything to do with this scenario happening. He was just going to the Lowe's with his lovely wife and then his ex ruined his night and managed to upset the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with along the way. If you handle it this way, you will teach him a lesson; He will have learned from his mistake; and you can go to bed together happy this evening without any lingering negative feelings, which would be wrong.
Whatever you do, don't fall in to the trap of blaming your husband for his ex's behavior. It was not his fault that she came up to him and gave him a kiss. Since you thought it was family, the kiss must've not been out of line. Take it for what it is...don't blow it out of context. Some girls are just like that and it is completely normal and innocent. Now, if he would have chased her down and done it...that would be different, but he didn't and wouldn't...you know that.
Now that you have been angry and he learned his lesson...go hug him, kiss him, love him and go to bed with a smile! Lingering anger is stupid...being happy is so much easier...no need to stay upset!
Good Luck!
2006-07-13 17:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by Cing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That became a very d i c ok flow on his area! i'd let him sweat it out for a lengthy time period. quite i'd have the want to make him somewhat fearful and jealous decrease back. no longer putting forward to attempt this yet i'd pick to at least some thing decrease back so he can experience what you experience. perchance next time you're saying hi to any guy do not introduce your husband if he's status top next to you. if you're not from now on significant then he's not both. let him see how that feels in case you smile and greet yet another guy you understand yet do not clarify who the guy is and do not introduce them except the guy asks in the front of your husband.
2016-12-01 06:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by birchett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heavens no, but in his defense (in case he deserves one) he was probably as stunned as you were, did they talk for any length of time, i mean if they conversed for a minute or two and he still neglected to introduce you then hec yeah, kick his butt, however if this was a very brief encounter her butt is the only one that should be in danger, she probably knew exactly what the deal was and took full advantage of that, he should be grateful he didn't marry that b*tch! if it happens again (and who does this happen to twice) but anyway...step in between them, introduce yourself as his wife and say oh you are that one that _______ and fill in the nastiest blank you can think of at the time! she gets a perfectly legal slap in the face, and there is no chance she'll have anything to do with him again after he told you THAT about her!
2006-07-13 17:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief...if my wife did that, I'd be visibly angry. And would expect her to be the same. Clonk him with a frying pan (kidding).
2006-07-13 17:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by harvomatic7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong to be angry you should have introduced your foot to his ***** well you know what I was saying...
2006-07-13 17:05:35 · answer #8 · answered by Irishman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shouldve have popped that ***** first and the your man for not doing anything.. Mami you gotta hold your ground. Because then that ***** will get too comfortable...
2006-07-13 17:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DIDNT KICK HER A$$. Your asking if you were wrong to be angry? ROFLMAO! Girl, if it were my man, I would have kicked her a##.
2006-07-13 17:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by Amieann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋