I have been with my husband for 11 yrs. I have not been happy in a very long time, no communication, ect, ect, ect. I am not sure if this is grounds for a divorce or not.
2006-07-13 16:56:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he wont go to counseling. We do have children together. I attend church with my children, he also refuses to go. I am just not in love with him anymore. I feel like I am stuck.
2006-07-13 17:21:51 · update #1
Legally it is, but try counselling first. Divorce should be a last resort.
2006-07-13 17:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although everyone deserves to be happy, i think u need to work on your marriage, doing all you possibly can before calling it quits.. after 11 years u have to realize marriage has its ups and downs and look at all the obsticles you've already over come during your marriage and all the great things that you've both gone through not just the bad.. try to seek help, go to a couple counselor or if he wont go, go yourself to see if you can learn the tools yourself to change the situation around.. cant hurt , u've already gone this far whats alittle longer trying to make things turn around.. if it doesnt work.. then u can look ur self in the mirror every day knowing u gave it completely your all before giving up, and if it does work, you'll think how silly u were even for having this thought 20 years from now and greatful that u didnt leave cause you would of missed out on so many more great times.. give it a shot..
2006-07-13 17:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience and going thru this myself, being unhappy with the situation between you and your spouse is definitely grounds for a divorce.........What you need to be looking at instead of your unhappiness, is WHY there is so much unhappiness......Is it something he has done, something you have done, something that the 2 of you created during the course of the relationsthip, or is it something that has not met your expectations.......When you can answer that/those questions, then you can much more easily decide what it is that you want to do and be.......Seek the counsel of others if you are able to....friends, a professional, whatever, but be honest with yourself..........There are no wrong reasons for wanting out of a marriage, however, knowing why yourself is the first step to regaining your own identity.
2006-07-13 17:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by 00000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 30....life is to long to be with the wrong person, I changed my life and moved away, but I had no kids that makes it harder. Get happy at any cost but be sure that is what you need to do. You and only you know if you will ever be happy with him. Take a look at your life and then what your life will be in another 2rs, 4 yrs, and then look at what it will be like in 11yrs. Does it look good? Think about that.
2006-07-13 17:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by fl2stay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on him. It takes two to make things work. Be careful, at some point one of you may go crazy, so talk it over and if he feels nothing, then move on. I don't really believe in divorce, but whataya gonna do? Good luck.
2006-07-13 17:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by neener68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should check with a lawyer to see what the divorce requirments are in your state.
2006-07-13 17:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by Sadie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is, if both of you want out of the marriage. You could try counseling, but irrevocable differences is your reason.
2006-07-13 17:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u have kids think about them first. you have a responablity to them break there life up and make yours what u want or live for them and deal with what you have. talk to your husband tell him what u feel and after if you dont have kids do what you think and believe is right for you
2006-07-13 17:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by marynew8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe you could as long as you've faith you could. purely try, and verify out to you may prevail. whenever you've loose time you should practice operating on the %. you've worry with. it ought to help with the faculty. i wish you're making it :) goog success
2016-11-02 00:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"i take this man to be my husband better or worst til death"
ring any bell
marriage is not used car u trade in when to tire of it
divorse is not option in god's eyes
2006-07-13 17:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by randy h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋