Is anyone else tired of their life?

Question

I feel like the my path to enlightenment is going nowhere, and that was my last hope. Everything else sucks, no job, I have no friends/we dont talk any more, just my imagination and hope. What sucks is that I have these dreams about different parellels of my life. Even my subconcious know that I have made a mess of what could have been a good, fun life. At different points I had good things going for me. But now, this misery I feel is masked with a thin linning of hope, but man it is getting tougher and tougher to breathe...well sorry for the rant, but if you have any ideals/suggestions let me know. I need more than a bible verse.

Although, I said I need more than a bible verse I was upset, please do feel free to share, from other holy texts as well. I need some inspiration. Thanks to all those that have shared so far. I have alot to think about.

Answer 1

Take a deep breath. It is Ok to rant as you put it. You need to express yourself. Not knowing what is going on in your life it is difficult to know what to say to you, but I will tell you one thing, you have "will" and because of that you create your own destiny. You can give in to dispair and the feeling of helplessness or you can find intention and get your life back on track.

So you "made a mess of what could have been a good, fun life". That doesn't mean that you cannot change things. We ALL make mistakes. No one else can make things right for you...only you have the means to erase and forget what happened in the past. Forgive yourself for whatever happened and move forward. I would begin by trying to repair the friendships and relationships that somehow appear to have been broken. Then find a job and move forward in that direction.

Intention exercise:
Pick three things that would make your life better and state your intention. (example: It is my intention to repair the relationships I have destroyed) Then write down three definitive ways in which you can accomplish this. (example: I can call up Mary and apologize for whatever broke up our friendship and ask her to give me another chance.)

Only pick three intentions - each with three workable solutions. If things don't work out the way you want them to find three more intentions with solutions. When you write down these intentions and the solutions to accomplish them, you will pull yourself out of your rut and be able to move forward.

Good Luck! I know that you can do it. ((((hugs)))

Answer 2

Hi

Sometimes I am tired of my life too, because of various reasons, which I'm not going to explain right here. I have always believed that only action can change things (I am an atheist). In theory there's a solution for any problem. Something that was caused can be reversed. You only need to apply the correct actions.

In your case it's hard to picture what exactly went wrong. Maybe you should more precisely describe your situation.

You claim you have no friends. Well, then I advise you go find them. Many people also believe that you need a group of friends or connections in order to find some true love. People think that they wil find friends or be able to build a relationship by some "random" event. That thought is entirely false. The actual chance of things occuring like that is quite small. If you have the ability to talk to a stranger you just meet in the super market or in a pub and can start a nice conversation, then you are able to build new connections. There exists books about how to convince someone (a man in your case) and retrieve his telephone number right away. I know it sounds strange. So going out forms a great ability to meet new friends. Have you ever considered dating websites? Some people are also interested in friends.

In order to find a job, I advise you get some kind of degree. On yahoo.com you can find degrees that you can retrieve in just 1 year (somewhere at the left).

What do you have to lose? I believe you only live once, but you're dead forever.

Change is caused by action.

Note: By your nickname I assume you are a woman. Are you feeling lonely? I seek 10 secs and look what I have found:
http://www.practicalromance.com/Seduction/Seducing-a-man.htm

Answer 3

I know how you feel. Sometimes I am very tired of my life, and wish that I were another person living in a nicer place than texas. I only have 2 friends and I am disappointed in people.
I hope that you can find hope in yourself. If you don't have a job, maybe you can register with your state workforce commission. There are programs in which you can apply for if you have little or no income. These programs are designed to give you work training, computer training, and even send you to college in some circumstances for free. Why don't you go back to school and try something new. Perhaps if you like teaching , you could try volunteering at a school or at local community. Maybe volunteering could help you feel better by helping others. It may not be easy, and you may be unappreciated, but I perhaps that could jumpstart you to be more inspired. I hope that you find hope and esteem in yourself.

Answer 4

I know it sounds trite, but time really can change your perspective. There have been times when I've been so miserable or thought that I knew what I should be doing and nothing worked. Years later I look back and realize that if things had gone the way I wanted that later good things wouldn't have happened.

Don't know if that makes sense, but life seems to be a puzzle and you only see the picture after a bunch of pieces have been put in place. It also helps, down the road, to realize, "Hey, I got through that, I can get through this". Sometimes you just need to relax and give your subconscious time to work things out instead of pushing so hard.

Tomorrow find one little thing that's good, among all the mess you see around you. Find one thing to be thankful for. The next day make it two things. You'll be able to dig out of this hole.

Answer 5

You don't need a bible or anything of that sorts, you need a counsellor/phsychatrist for u need professional help, seek one ASAP.

Your morale is down, you have lost self-confidence and you need it NOW. Do something which you like. The good thing about ur situation is you know u r in a mess and want help... not many people realize they r in a mess and even when they do... they dont want help, so go and see some professional. Forums like these won't be able to help u much.

Answer 6

Sometimes when we fail we feel that way. And sometimes we try to take on too much too fast.
Decide what it is you would really like to do and accomplish in your life. (Be realistic) Then make a realistic plan on how you are going to achieve that. Here is an example:
Long Range Goal: Physical Therapist
Short Term Goal: Job
Steps to achieving this: Education, job in a health care environment (C.A., Assistant or intern in pt Dept), Apply for Education Loan to go to school. (most health care places will work with you on your scheduling) (Mind you this is just an example- since I don't know what your desires are.) If your serious you may email me and I will assist you in establishing a realistic plan based on what you would like to achieve. I have 3 college degrees and worked a full-time job while acquiring them, and I did so with the help of a government education loans.

Answer 7

hi there i have also had many issues in my life and gone through some verry rough patches with feeling alone some times you dont even have to be alone to feel alone you could be in a relationship have friends close by and still feel alone, you could have a half decent job and still feel your going nowere, ive experianced this all what i found that worked best for me was to focus myself on doing things i find fun, it seems to lighten up my day if only for a little while and if all else fails seek a doctors opinion you could be suffering from a form of depression in my case it had to do with issues i kept bottled for years if thats the case set those feelings free and remember when one door closes anouther one open you just gotta find the right door

sorry if i got a lil off the topic hope i helped

Answer 8

When i read what you said, it seemed like you were describing me. The best i can suggest is to communicate.Talk to your old friends maybe go hang out with them, make new friends, find a job. One of us has got to get off their butts and do something today. Its great to have hope, to be inspired, but you still need to do something like have fun or work. Youre obviously an intelligent person so go out and show 'em what you got. Hope at least one of us follows this advice. Take care.

Answer 9

Tomorrow, wake up and be someone else. Don't confuse other people's dreams for you, from your own. Get out and watch how the other of Mother Nature's creatures endure. Survive, see the beauty around you, see the flower growing in the cement, see the things that survive sgainst all odds. Search for whatever you need to appreciate all the things you can to-day. mANY OTHERS NEVER GET THIS CHANCE.

Answer 10

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