My boyfriend and I have the same threesome fantasy, but I am hesitant about it, I wonder if he loves me or if he is attracted to me, I don't know how to go about it, but he is always insisting. Any suggestions?
2006-07-13 16:27:54 · 24 answers · asked by Nicoya72 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if your not comfortable, then dont.
2006-07-13 16:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by lightningviper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you doing this for him or yourself? Depending on how strong and stable the relationship is determines if can sustain another person in it. Sexual fantasy are part of life but the actual participation depend on the people involved. If you are wondering if he loves you then this might not be for you. You are questioning you worth and validation already. A third person will only increase your fears. You have to ask yourself why you really want to participate in a threesome. When you are truthful with yourself you will have your answer.
2006-07-13 16:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by dimples 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I wonder if he loves me or if he is attracted to me"
seems to me you have more important issues than worrying about a threesome. those insecurites will only increase tenfold if you go through with it. think about that first please. really.
anyway, to answer your question, the best way to open this door is to maintain control. commit to agreements from the beginning like: you get to choose the girl, you get to choose who starts, you get to choose what positions are acceptable, you choose if he's allowed to c*m inside of her, etc. he's a man. he'll just be happy you're even talking seriously about the whole thing so he'll be willing to agree to most things. make some rules but be ready to compromise as well.
your relationship will forever change if you do this so be ready. good or bad depends on how you feel afterward. sometimes, that's too late.
2006-07-13 16:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by yer daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some fantasies are meant to stay just that. Trust me I've been there. and I felt pushed aside and forgotten and me and the girl are no longer best friends and me and the guy are no longer together. If you really love this man I'd make sure it was really something I wanted or just something I'd like to think about before I made any promises. Good Luck!
2006-07-13 16:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeek.
Every relationship I have seen that has a threesome breaks down shortly thereafter.
Is this your idea, or your bf's? Sounds to me like he has talked you into it. Find out if he'd be as interested in 2 guys and you 3some. (I doubt that!)
I've learned that people looking for another party (person) aren't happy with what they have.
2006-07-13 16:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by eriayasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how boys are, I cannot stress that enough honey....
The fact that he wants a threesome doesn't mean he's not attracted or doesn't love you. Promise.
You want a threesome to right? So, you're not less attreacted to him, or love him less right?
2006-07-13 16:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by tropical_sunrise1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is dead the only thing people love these days is themselves. no he doesn't love you and you do not love him at this current point in your lives you are both convenient to each other. one day the convenience of this relationship will end and so will the relationship so just ask him if he wants to bang your friend by the way
nuclear war is imminent worry about something else
2006-07-13 16:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3sums are not that bad actually take it from me ever since i had my frist 3sum i have been bi but at any time one of my partners said that they were uncomfortable then i stoped that is that and if your bf is insiting on it ask him why does he want it so bad and ask him if he has ever done it b4 if not open a new door on your relationship but at any time u feel uncomfortable then just say stop or you realy don't want to do it don't be afraid to say something no matter if one of them get made at you or not but if your bf gets made and raising his voice just say it is over it is not worth your feelings not tryin to be a witch with a b but that is the truth
2006-07-13 16:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by KitKat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UGH! Why would you want to do that? No he doesn't love you because if he did , he would never want to share you with anyone of share himself with anyone. If he truly loved you, you would be monogamous. Also , if you have a 3 some who knows what kinds of sexually transmitted diseases you may catch! That's sick and immoral.
2006-07-13 16:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by TiredofIdiots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try it once with a stranger (someone from an adult personals website). Don't let any of your friends know about this.
Then decide for yourself.
2006-07-13 16:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by Tag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming he wants it with 2 girls, then fulfill his fantasy. If he wants it with another guy, he probably won't be your bf much longer.
2006-07-13 16:30:14 · answer #11 · answered by uwparker81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋