I have a boyfriend of 8 years, I have a daughter who is 11 and his two children who are girl 12 and boy 14. They live with us every other week. The 14 year old boy has been getting into some trouble lately, just trying and doing evrything that he can. One of them being breaking and entering to steal xboxes from a house. It's been said that he is just going along for the ride but none the less he is just as guilty. The judge just gave him some time in juvey. But now I've been hearing things from my 11 year old daughter who has AIM and she gets all kinds of other dirt about him, but is told not to tell, but she tells me. It bothers me so. Should I break her confidentallity and tell my boyfriend or should I keep to myself. It will all come out in the wash sooner or later. I also do not want him to think I'm just picking on his son. Because I have never had a lot of faith in him anyway. I've tied to work with him since he's been young and no one ever seemed to be able to help him (ADHD).
2006-07-13 16:22:00 · 2 answers · asked by mailmetlc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should always be open and honest about every situation. Let your boyfriend know what you know. Do not get too caught up in the specifics and details of what is being said. Approach it more as "honey, there are accusations or negative things being said about ______" Details only if he asks. If he starts to get upset, then leave it be. As a caring father, he will approach the subject again when he is ready to deal with it.
2006-07-13 16:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by dangergrl0 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about this boy, you need to tell your boyfriend in hopes that he can get through to him. You need to try and do whatever it takes to get this boy straightened out and get him the help he needs.
2006-07-13 23:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋