It obviously affects my marriage a lot. I hate to see his face and even talk to him.. We had a lot of bad exchanges and I am fed up with that man.
Because of that stress I cannot get close to my wife as she worships him and treats me secondary compared to him. He is mean to me and my parents. Because of that even my wife treats my parents badly but expects me to worship her crooked dad.
This is driving me crazy and life feels like a jail.
2006-07-13 15:39:26 · 10 answers · asked by Shane W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is retired Colonel and thinks that I should lick his and his daughter's feet everytime I see him. He tells my wife I am no good for her and advices her to separate. He is a big liar and has lied about everything in his life to everybody. But he is too smooth and impressive the first time. You have to live with him to realize the cunningness of the back-stabber.
He tells me he doesn't like my dad and mom.
2006-07-13 15:46:55 · update #1
Then it's time you tell your wife to choose between you and her daddy. If she chooses her father, you never had her in the first place.
2006-07-13 15:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you.
The best thing for you to do is to realize that you are wasting a lot of your good energy being angry with this man. The worst part about the way you feel is that it is eating you up inside, and is affecting your mental, physical, and emotional health.
No one says that you or your parents have to be subjected to this man's bad attitude or verbal abuse. However, since he is your wife's father, and presumably you love her....you need to sit her down and tell her how this is affecting you and your relationship with her. Then you need to tell her how you have come up with a plan to help keep the peace....by simply not being there when he comes over to your house to visit, and by not going to his house for any visits. Tell her that you know how upsetting it is for her to have to listen to the two of you argue all the time, and that by not being there you hope to avoid any potential arguments. This will make you look like a kind thoughful, considerate and loving husband. It will also have the effect of reducing your stress considerably.
If you leave your wife alone enough to spend quality time with her 'daddy dearest', he may not look so endearing to her after awhile.
Good Luck~*
2006-07-13 23:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two love each other, you both should try hard to get along with each others parents and try to somehow promote peace between everyone. No matter what, try not to instigate any further fights. I know it must be hard, but your spouse must treat you and your parents with respect in return. If she does not, this will continue to cause a lot of tension between you two, and how can a relationship work with all that tension? Effort for peace and respect should come from both partners. If you two really love each other, you will try hard, even if it means pretending, to get along with each other's family. Good luck.
2006-07-13 22:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must really love your wife to put up with this....but your wife
has to start trying to understand your feelings..".....don't let her walk all over you...or your father in law...stand up for yourself and your wife should back you up if she loves you...there's no way its worth goin through life feelin like your in jail when you've been
free the whole time...your too afraid to lose your wife or something...whatever the case...break free ASAP
2006-07-13 22:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by ljean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married your wife not her family. She needs to understand that. If you can't get along just stay away from him. Tell your wife it is better for everyone involved if you keep your distance for awhile. In time go sit down and ask him just what is it that he dislikes about you and tell him how you feel.
2006-07-13 22:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by Robin H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just need to sit down with your wife and tell how u are feeling about her choose her father over u that she needs to choose u are him but i know she will choose her father because he is her father but she needs to tell her father to back up a little at of her marriage life and let u and her be happy
2006-07-13 22:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show you can be the better person and tell him that hey we need to start over ...Everyone would get along better and your wife would see that at least you tried..Go ahead what have you got to lose?
2006-07-13 22:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is married to YOU, not her dad! A marriage cannot survive like this. She has to pick one or the other.
2006-07-13 23:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by Chewie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant get close to your wife, then what is the point of the marrige.you need to tell her, and if she leaves, then she was never committed to you, cause when you get married your spouse is suppossed to come before the parents, you leave them and cleave to your spouse
2006-07-13 22:44:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you move to another state? That's what I did so all my in-laws would leave me and my husband alone.
2006-07-13 22:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by gaby1120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋