I dont know what to do my wife wants me to sleep with another woman not really a swinger thing she just thinks she owes me cause she cheated on me i have trouble with women anyway cause iam shy should i do what my wife wants or not please help
2006-07-13 15:38:36 · 33 answers · asked by camsamjam04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How odd. Don't do it. She may be baiting you just to give you heck later about it.
2006-07-13 15:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by ladysodivine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you're wife is screwed up and was never ready for marriage if she did that and she might feel like that because she doesn't want to feel like she owes you for her mistake and just make it even now. You are married though! She sounds so mimmature. Mos people learn in middle, high school, or college that it's a bad idea. Don't go down to her level, show her you are a good husband and that she is just going to have to live with the guilt of what she did but if you really love her, don't keep going on with that pattern of distruction.
2006-07-13 15:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our recommendation would be to do it, but only if she is there. This could accomplish a few things. First, if you are both there, it is an experience that you two are sharing together so you don't have to feel as though you're cheating. Second, because you're having sex with another woman, it would relieve her of the fact that she cheated on you, 'settling the score' so to speak. Third, because you're shy around women, agree to this but she would have to set it up. This will prevent you from having to pick up a woman yourself. The last thing that could happen is that you two could really enjoy having sex with other and it can bring you to new levels of sexual pleasure.
2006-07-20 04:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't do it
just because your wife made a mistake doesn't mean that you compounding it will make it right
I think tho that if you are willing to stay in your marriage that there are many issues that you and your wife need to work through together to help put your marriage back together again stronger than before.
there must have been some issues before that lead to your wife feeling the need to cheat - please get help before making anymore decisions along those lines as it would be a shame to throw away your marriage if it could be salvaged with some help
2006-07-13 15:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's doing this to try to make it up to you, in which case I think the question is, do you want to? If you do, then lucky you, go for it (use protection, and don't get involved). If you don't, then it's not a very good appology, is it? Think of something you'd like more, and tell her that. If you want to but are kind of nervous about it, then if your wife is doing it to make up to you I'd say it was her job to arrange it in a way that makes you feel comfortable about it.
2006-07-13 15:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!! It doesn't look like your wife took her wedding vows too seriously. Is she doing this out of guilt or dos she believe you will settle the score? If you participate in any sexual encounter outside your marriage, you will be stooping to your wife's level and would be just as wrong. Get counseling and tell her to forget it! Give yourself some respect, she isn't.
2006-07-13 15:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how to answer if your wife is one to say one thing and do another then a defanate no, I cheated on mine and he never has really forgave after 18 yrs. but we are still workin on it I have said to do so but it would of been the hardest thing for me.
I would tred on careful ground, just doin it back isnt gonna make it better it just adds to it and if you dont want to then dont
2006-07-13 15:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because she will never forget and in a future argument she will say if you really loved me you wouldn't have done it. It's kind of like when they as you if you think her pants make her look fat or which one of her girl friends would you date if you could. THey don't want you to give an honest answer they want you to stoke their ego by saying there is noone else as beautiful as they are no no the pants don't make you look fat. It's a trap step around it and tell her you don't want anybody else.
2006-07-13 15:45:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intimacy in marriage is a sacred thing. Why share something that special reserved for the wife you love with someone else? Does that make your marriage stonger or weaker?
2006-07-13 15:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by keb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Mouse then do as you wife says; but if you are a Man, you know that by doing so you will always feel guilty; and that will only make matters worse.
2006-07-13 15:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by lousylaus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, go see a marriage counselor so you and your wife can deal with this issue in a positive way. Two wrongs don't make a right.
2006-07-13 15:49:39 · answer #11 · answered by deathtolove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋