I met him when I was 16 and he was 20, we wre just friends but I did not like him, we argued a lot while he dated my best friend for a while. After that ended he met this foreign girl that (I know) he loved very much but she left him for college, she went back to his country. After some time, he asked me out, and we began dating really strong and I REALLY FELL IN LOVE with him, much to my surprise. By then I was 23 and he was 27. I went crazy about him, loved every breath he took, every thing he did..................then his ex- girlfriend heard about me, came back and they got together again. I was devasted when he left me and never felt worse in my life. Eventually they got married, they had a child, and they divorced after 8 years. In the meantime I married twice, had my son, got divorced and FOUND HIM again.I realized I never stop loving him..Lived together but we're too independent, couldn't take it, I love him still but cannot forget the pain..Your thoughts?
2006-07-13 15:10:26 · 7 answers · asked by Pi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try being JUST friends- you have a long history with each other- be friends and learn to value more than the infatuation.
Eventually you will grow together and learn to accept and/or change each other. Learn to be just friends without other motives at heart- and your wildest dreams may come true when it is time.
2006-07-13 15:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you feel slightly abandoned and you are still harboring such emotions. When he left you all those years ago you have to understand that it wasn't you, but him who was the problem. He clearly did not get over foreign girl, and although its hard to hear, perhaps you were a rebound. Perhaps you two wouldve worked out if you'd both waited until he was over her. But when she came back, it released a feeling that all women have felt at one point or another, abondonement. I mean you went through every girls worst nightmare. There is a reason that everyone hates ex-gf's its because you never know if its truly over. Well now he is single and you are single.
You need to let go of any resentment and if you feel that you can give him another shot, go for it, otherwise let him know in no uncertain terms that you are no ones second choice and that you deserve much better. If he didnt love you enough back then to stay with you, then you shouldnt tip the scales by loving him more now. in the end its your decision, but if you feel you can let go of all the anger and hate you have, go for it. Otherwise move on with your life.
2006-07-13 15:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mezee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Nikky:
I can't really figure out what you are asking us? You appear to be thinking on paper? Pondering your life.....
What a situation. Why are you not together; you mention that you are too independent...well don't live together, but apart, but date, or see one another as a married couple? I hear in your words though you don't trust him anymore.
If there is no trust, there is no relationship with that person. Period.
luv
Ava
2006-07-13 15:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, since you've been divorced twice, they are obviously your rebounder. i think you might want to talk to him about the situation you have. and if he's a d!ck about it, then that's when you know you should leave him for sure. but if he's considerate, maybe you should think about starting the relationship with him again.
2006-07-13 15:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by 27stars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice Novel
I'm sorry it didn't have a happy ending. You still basically proved my personaly theory that if you really love someone it doesn't ever go away.
2006-07-13 15:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a therapist to learn how to get on with your life and find out what you really want.
2006-07-13 15:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i rather live in peace than in pain search your soul ask god for his help
2006-07-13 15:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by deepbeauty22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋