My husband is 27 and i am 33. We've only been married for 10 months and he is very disinterested in sex no matter what i do. He told me before we got married that he didn't like to have sex all the time but I didn't think he meant never. Anyone have any suggestions?
2006-07-13 15:01:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he was honest with you right at the beginning, so i say he did the right thing telling you that. you need to find out the reason why he doesn't like it. guys in general LOVE sex, so there has to be a legitimate reason why he doesn't like it and i doubt it has anything to do with his love for you. i suggest you suggest to him to see a counselor about it.
good luck
2006-07-13 15:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 2⤋
Yes, something is the matter. And you should have believed him, rather than felt like he was showing respect when he didn't pressure you all the time to have sex with him. The problem is possibly physical but is more likely emotional. Good friend of mine married a guy who had been a male prostitute (she didn't know that at the time) and he had no interest in sex at all unless it was with 8 of his best friends, her and a German shepherd all participating. Other guys are so weirded out about their dads that they don't have a clear sense of who they are. Guys like this often think they are gay.
Whatever, you are probably feeling like you should have explored this before you got married. Do the best you can but don't ever forget that the problem isn't with you.
2006-07-13 22:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we are married for three years and have not had sex. Now it's not that we don't want to. We just can't, because of physical problem. But we would do it a lot if we could. So there is something going on, and I'd suggest you to talk to your doctor about it.
2006-07-13 22:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not normal especially since you've only been married 10 months. It took me 10 years not to "need" it daily. Your hubby has issues. Try and find out what his problem is. If you are an attractive women he should be very interested in sex.
2006-07-13 22:06:21 · answer #4 · answered by Champ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know any normal man that don't like to have sex. my husband says he's either got a physical problem or he is not attracted to you sexually. He says try something to spice it up. He also said he might be having an affair. talk to him because the only way he's not wanted sex is the fact that I am 9 months pregnant and can't!!! e-mail me if you need to talk
2006-07-13 22:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's abnormal. he probably have someone outside which u didn't know.
it's not that he don't like sex i guess, no normal man don't like sex like wise for gals. God makes us to enjoy sex. It's the best thing in life.
I guess he is too tired after having sex with someone else out there before he goes home.
well i love sex day and night. how i wish i don't have to work and b home having sex 24 hours a day.
there ae thousands of styles to experience how to get bored.
gregg662001@yahoo.com.sg
2006-07-13 22:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by Gregg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are various reasons this could be happening...
depression
low testosterone levels
yes, denial of homosexuality is an option... who knows.
he married for the wrong reasons (was not attracted to you but wanted to settle down for whatever reason)
I would definitely seek professional help.
2006-07-13 22:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Healthy people enjoy sex. Maybe he is cheating. Maybe not. Sound weird though..is he gay? No offense but you are just married so... what's up? Good luck and sorry for the trouble.
2006-07-13 22:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ouros 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not talked to him about then thats the first thing you need to do. If you have talked to him and he still dont want to have more sex . You can either cheat on him or buy some sex toys !!!
2006-07-13 22:17:49 · answer #9 · answered by mar_shall67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah he's gay.come on 27 a man.not normal.check for signs.what normal 27 year old man doesn't have porn movies or plays with himself.doesn't like sex or he's getting somewhere else that is not you.
2006-07-13 22:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by sexydiabla592 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could have a depression problem have him see a doctor maybe try Viagra. if he refuses seek marriage counseling. he is young this is not normal behavior my hubby is 36 and we have sex daily some time twice in a day.
2006-07-13 22:17:11 · answer #11 · answered by Sarah127 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋