My boyfriend and I have gone out for more than 2 years... and I have always been basically the "guy" in the relationship. I dont give a **** about anything and he's obsessive all the time. For ex: he would get mad when I would'nt call him. I would nevr care that he would go out with his freinds to clubs, but when it came to me going to clubs he always have to go with... to the point that I have never gone out dancing with just the girls. I have told him i want space, but we just never get to it. What do you think I should do with obessive boyfreind problem?
2006-07-13 14:58:41 · 14 answers · asked by Lissi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I guess he's just insecure as well, maybe you should sit down with him and talk to him, tell him how you feel and how both of you should have a little bit of breathing space as its much healthier than being controlled 24/7.
2006-07-13 15:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by whiteblaq 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
OK i Had the same problem before she wanted cheating on me but she want her space is omos like u r problem just tried not to tell him anything about clubs just be normal like u don't care that he is with hes friend the m he will Noe o this girls trusts on me so he is going to tried not to loose yous so he would try not to go out side any more he would a ways be right there with you
2006-07-13 22:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by juanm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you're willing to give as a compromise, and what you're not willing to give as a compromise. Then, stick to it. If you really want to go to nightclubs, he doesn't have the right to stop you, and you can tell him this.
If you want to make him feel more comfortable with your going out, then make sure you remember to talk about it in the right way. I definitely don't suggest lying, but also don't, like, go on at length about how you love to flirt with other guys if you know that it makes him comfortable.
Also, don't cheat on him. That should go without saying, but considering a lot of the girls I've been friends with and what they've done behind their boyfriends' backs, hoo-boy.
2006-07-13 22:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably insecure. Try some romantic gestures every now and then; show him how much you care about him and maybe he'll ease up a little bit. If he doesn't start giving you space, dump him. You don't want this to turn abusive.
2006-07-13 22:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by Cyn90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS HARD TO HAVE A OBESSIVE BOYFRIEND AND I SAY IF IT IS THAT BAD MAYBE YOU NEED A BREAK FOR A WHILE TO GET YOUR HEAD RIGHT BUT REMEBER BY BEING A OBESSIVE BOYFRIEND THATS ONE WAY TO CONTROL YOU AND IF THATS NOT WHAT YOU LIKE MAYBE YOU TALK TO HIM AND TILL HIM HOW YOU REALLY FEEL AND IF THATS DONT WORK ITS TIME TO STEP AWAY BECAUSE IT STARTS OUT OBESSIVE AND ENDS UP WORST.
2006-07-14 08:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he's very obessive, then why r u still with him.. talk to him n let him know that you dislike the way he treated you unfairly. If he stills don't get it, leave him.
2006-07-13 22:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by jave7685 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should dump the bas***d! he is a control freak and a hippocrit, and even though i dont know u, u dont deserve that crap. u should b able to party and dance wen u want, and even go for drinks with sum of ur guy friends. let him loose!
2006-07-13 22:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by tasha+sean=luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, let him know.. that hes being very obessive and needs to stop.., and dont be around anyone that brings anger for stupid pathedic s h i t. You need to Leave him.. you dont need or want that.
2006-07-13 22:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_poetic_fire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U ARE SOOOOOOOOO LUCKY! just tell him- in a nice way..that u have lots of things to do..for which u need time..ofc- tell him..u think of him when u are not with him..but- u'll make it up to him when u guys meet! :-D
thats the answer i get all the time . lol
2006-07-13 22:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by sexychicklady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should sit down and talk with him and ask if he has any trust issues or has had them in the past.
2006-07-13 22:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by Cat83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋