My friends boyfriend is so abusive that she is afraid he might even kill her. He rapes her and beats her until she passes out and I am fearing for her life. She doesnn't want to tell her mom and not the cops either. What should she do?
2006-07-13 14:56:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My friend also lives in another country. I've known her for such a long time and don't want her life to end
2006-07-13 15:42:30 · update #1
Well my first most important advise is to leave/breakup with him clean. If he refuses/threaten, get police help. To be on safe side have a trusted and strong friend to go along but away from the conversation, just keeping an eye if anything worst is to happen. Don't ever let him know that there is a friend watching. U and the friends to go to meeting area separtely (meant to be stranger) and a public area with crowds. Don't find a quiet place.
Can always find me, m most willing to be of help. i love to be abuse.lol. I treat all ladies with respect, care and love.
gregg662001@yahoo.com.sg
2006-07-13 15:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Gregg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By not wanting to tell the cops or her mother she is putting her life at more risk than it already is. She needs to get out of this relationship, and she needs to do it soon before she lives to regret it, or worse ends up getting really badly hurt. She needs to talk to her mum, you seem like a good friend and even though it might seem like betrayal now, maybe you need to talk to her mum if she does not want to. She'll thank u later for saving her. Sometimes although we may be risking alot, its the only hope we have of helping the ones we love. She needs to get away from this guy and it sounds like she will need all the help she can get. Just make sure she always knows that she is not the one at fault. Its all him, and she has nothing to be ashamed about so she shouldnt feel ashamed or embarrassed to talk to her mum. Our parents are there to help us and guide us back on to the straight path when we lose our way. I hope it works out for the best with your friend.
2006-07-13 15:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mezee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell the police--she is your friend and her telling you is a cry for help--she knows it is wrong and so do you-- no one deserves to be treated like that--you have to get someone involved in this situation asap. it might hurt her now that you told but in the long run she is gong to thank you--the guy needs to get some help too. good luck!
2006-07-13 15:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by cutie_1016 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should contact the "Domestic Violence Hotline" in her area. They will direct her to the nearest location where she can receive help. She has to make the decision to leave him. It is a matter of life and death.
2006-07-13 15:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lady J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to leave him he doesn't love her i know its easier said then done but she needs to think about her life ..if shes scared tell her to play it off plan to go to her parents house or a friend and don't come back.. leave her stuff she can always buy whatever said needs to start over good luck and i'll be praying
2006-07-13 15:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by monique h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if shes scared to go to the cops tell her to get out of town for a wile and then tell someone so he doesn't know were she is PS.it would probably be a big help for her if you went with her
2006-07-13 15:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by brintty f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get out FAST!!! One of these times she will not wake up. Tell her to get out, one of these times when he is out, be there ready to help her. Good Luck to her.
2006-07-13 15:00:32 · answer #7 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋