2006-07-13 14:37:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
find a good support system that will help you and pack up the kids and leave
2006-07-13 14:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by rachiecakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just became a control freak overnight? Wow something must have happened to cause that. There is a lot of responsibility in such a big job. I have a feeling you have met someone else and would like to ditch the whole family and take off (mid life crisis a little early maybe?). I base this on another question you have asked. I have a feeling he is not the real issue here. Get counseling.
2006-07-15 22:48:19 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not stay with him just BC you have 2 kids. When he is at work one day have everything packed up and move out with the kids. Leave him a "dear john" note that you have left him for good. Check with the laws in your state. You may not be able to take the kids away from their father out of state. Once you settle into your new life without this guy try and meet a new man that will treat you good.
2006-07-13 21:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Champ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see just from i gather from yur typing, u r in yur early 30's , very attractive, full of life,stay at home mom. He wants to know where u r and what ur doing at all times but he probably disapears for hours and days with no info. I bet theres tension the minute he walks in the door. He probably has limited ur contact with any friends, didnt give u car and sequestered u in a romote neighborhood. This is the type of man who will beat u. And the first time he does u get a restarining order and kick him out. U stay in yur house --the courts will prohibit him from getting close to u and ur beautiful children. They will make him pay both child support and alimony--if not they will garnish his wages and put him in jail. U will be safe! Make him leave by use of the law-he will not only leave u alone but he will have to pay u alot of money every week. To raise children in that sick atmosphere u will just raise abusive sons and daughters willing to take abuse when they grow older.
2006-07-14 09:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control freak is a totally meaningless if very emotional phrase. In most cases, women who accuse their husbands of being control freaks are just angry because they, the women, expect to be in full control, which they see as the natural order of events.
So, when you ask a question like this, you need to give some real examples, not just make emotionally laden accusations. Does he strip you naked and toss you out in -20 degree weather like one **husband I heard about in the early 70's? Or, does he just get upset when you get big penalties against your check book for overdrafts and he has to bail you out? If you want a meaningful answer, you need to give some detail.
**I am glad to be able to report that when she divorced him, she ended up in another really bad relationship. But, eventually, she met a really wonderful insurance agent, who taught her his trade and thus enabled her to escape her factory job, and they still work together. Her mom told me she had never heard them, either one, raise their voice at each other.
2006-07-13 22:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by retiredslashescaped1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the little info you provided: he's a control freak and you want out,,,,, just run as fast as you can, and take the kids with you, wherever you go, try to figure out the next steps: "trying" to work things out with him, divorce, the kids, etc, but just get out of the relationship, most of the times that people make a statement like that, they have already given a lot of thought to the situation and have an answer, if that person's controlling has any agression, be it physical or mental, get out NOW,,,
good luck
2006-07-13 21:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by MANGA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce
2006-07-13 21:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by scorpion prince89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married three times to controling men and after alot of soul searching I found out that if we would have sat down with a therapist, maybe just maybe the controling might have stopped...but whose to say it will if you don't try...right?
2006-07-13 21:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by flowitspice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make sure you've tried to make things work out for the better, and then you start saving monies, (however little it may be), where ever you can. Then when the time is right, make your step with your kids for all of your sake. Things won't get any better, it only gets worse with time.
2006-07-13 21:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pack up & leave go to a family members house then go to a shelter they will help you with your divorce things will get better
2006-07-13 21:45:29 · answer #10 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋