Girls/Women what is the longest time you spent w/ a guy in a relationship and regretted it? 5,10, 15 yrs?
do u feel like u wasted ur life with a guy who wasnt worthy and could have done something better with your life or be with someone better that treated you with love, honesty and respect u didnt get? why did u stay was it comfortabilty?
how old were you and how many yrs did u waste? your teens, twenties, 30's etc...
2006-07-13 14:26:40 · 6 answers · asked by star4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was with my ex for 10 years..from the age of 16 to 26. At first I am not sure why I stayed. He was my first and as I grew older, I think I became afraid to leave. I was too used to my life. All of my friends had been in the dating scene, and I really had not. I do feel like I Wasted alot of time on/with him. But, I gained alot from being with him too. We have a daughter together that I would never take back. I definitely learned what I do want out of life after being with him!
2006-07-13 14:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by madyx524 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasted 20 long years with a loser. He is a liar, cheater,, user, abuser, drug user/abuser, has no idea how to handle money, went from job to job to job (got fired after I left him for sexual harrassment), etc. I was 20 when I met him. I was super young, naive, and stupid when I met him as I was very, very sheltered while growing up so I didn't know that he was the way he was. Plus, we didn't live together until we got married, so I didn't know what kind of a person he was that way, if we were compatible. I was 40 when I left him. I have since found someone that is a total opposite of him, doesn't do ANYTHING that my ex did, is totally respectful, sweet, cherishes me, etc. We live together and are engaged. I am not totally sure why I stayed. I think that part of it was my being naive. Another part was disappointing my parents as they believed that once you got married, you stuck with the guy no matter what. It was also familiar as I had been abused as a child, hence the abuse I got from my ex being familiar. My ex was a lot like the dad that raised me. I was very shy, quiet, and didn't have faith in myself and my abilities. I have all of that now, and that is how I was able to leave him for good. I am sooooooooooo much happier now! If I had it to do all over again, and knew then what I know now, I would NOT have even given him the time of day and found someone else, such as the guy I am with now.
2006-07-13 15:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep ive felt that way a couple times ... 1st time was with my first husband, i got married at 18 together since 16 and divorced at 23.. i gave up everything to be with him, college, a young life ect.. and i did it gladly just to have him walk out on me and 2 kids later..
The next was i was in a relationship for 5 years from age 25 to 30 we werent married but lived together, he was abusive mentally and physically tore my selfesteem to shreads i tried very hard to make it work cause we too have a child so i put up with the abuse in hopes he'd wake up one day and see how he was treating me, but he didnt then it turned into needing a better environment then this for my children and left.. ive given most of my adult hood up to men that didnt deserve my love and time.. my fault yes.. but still a waste of time when i look back i would of done so much differently..
2006-07-13 15:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep.. I am going through a divorce right now from my husband. I gave up everything to be his wife including giving up who I was, I lost myself in this relationship and then to later find out that it wasn't enough for him. I finally snapped out of it and realized things were never going to change. I'm about to graduate from college and I realized that I have my whole life to look foward to. We have two kids and their the only reason I can't say that I wish I would've never met him. We were together for 8yrs. from age 17 to 25.
2006-07-13 15:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by hazel_eyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I loved him, trusted him, prayed for him,had six children with him, I can't say if I ever remember feeling like I would grow old with him, but I know now I love our children, but he'll never change.
We meet I was 18, separated I was 30, felt like I gained 10 years back to my life, I would not change my resons for leaving, he changed my mind by being the jurk he never realized was going to change his life forever.
2006-07-13 14:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 21:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋