How can I boost my self esteem.?

Question

well i dont have much money and i have very low self esteem i have no self confidence at all everytime i try to boost myself esteem someone is alwayz putting me down and making me feel lower. I know you dont suppose to care about what ppl say to you but what ppl say really hurts

Answer 1

Hmmm...Not a lot of money, huh? Here are some FREE things you can do (I do them everyday and I DARE someone tell me I'm not God's Gift to a Pair of Blue Jeans).

I drink water. (Naturally cleanses my system making my
skin clearer and my waistline smaller)

I exercise. (My body is toned and I work off any frustration...do whatever you want to break a sweat)

I eat a balanced diet and take vitamins. (When I take care of my body, my body takes care of me...and I have great hair too).

I sleep. (My body can't take care of itself if I don't rest.)

and most of all, I LOVE MYSELF: all of the things that make me great and all of the things that make me a jerk. There is no one out there like me...just as there is no one out there like you.

Love yourself! =^)

Answer 2

First of what the hell does the amount of money you have, have to do with self esteem, unless you are a completely shallow individual. In which case you have allot more to worry about. Self esteem comes from your view and opinions of YOUR own character and abilities. NOT how others see you. You need to focus on the things you don't like about yourself, and try and change them if possible. And stand up for yourself when people try and put you down.

Answer 3

I know it's hard to ignore people when they're putting you down. Everyone always says to just ignore them, but it's a lot harder than most would think. What you have to do is seriously convince YOURSELF that you love yourself, and then others will see this in you and won't have anything bad to say about you. Find one thing that you like about yourself...it could be a physical characteristic, or a personality trait, doesn't matter, you just have to love it. Then find some way to make others see how much you love this part of you. Sooner or later, you'll love you whole self and you self-confidence will be back!

Answer 4

Until you can love yourself you cant expect any one else to. Pick your chin up and do something FOR Yourself. I'm not saying you have to spend alot of money, just take a few extra minutes to make yourself look nice. Even if you are the only one who notices its a start. Try to be a little more out going as well, its amazing how an outgoing person can really turn positive attention on themselves. Treat everyone you meet with the respect and dignity you wish you recieved. Find something you enjoy doing and really strive to get good at it.
These are my suggestions, I was in a similiar boat when I was in my teens and was the target by several bullies. After high school I went out of state to college and got to start with a clean slate. I soon made new friends and got into physical conditioning and going out and socializing. I had my ten year reunion a few years ago and I was amazed how far ahead in life I am compared to a lot of the "cool Kids' that made my life hell in school. The funny thing is is that one of them even works for ME now....... He gets the crappy work!!!!

Answer 5

It can be hard, People can be really mean sometimes. Just try and remember, no matter what you do, no matter how you live in life, someone will ALWAYS be saying somethiing bad about you. I have learned that, I always have people saying bad things about me.

Here is something that helps me.... Make a list of 10 things you HATE about yourself... Then make a list of 10 things you love about yourself.... Take the first list, and trash it! Keep the second list, and read it whenever someone makes you feel bad! You have wonderful things to offer, don't let those low-lifes take that away from you.

Answer 6

Pick out the qualities about yourself that are admirable and focus on them. Remember God loves you even if no one else seems to. You are not alone even if it feels like you are. Also get a job. Set up a budget for yourself. Pay your self 1st by putting a little in the bank. Whatever you can afford. Pay your bills that you can afford for that week. If you have any money left over focus on a shopping spree. If your teeth are bad focus on that. Whatever it takes to make you feel good about you. Do it. Hold your head up high. And remember your worth it.

Answer 7

well if people so that crap in your face their the ones with the low self esteem theyre jsut doing that stuff to make them selves higher cuz their hippocrits with no self esteem themselves. Work on comebacks and be tough, or better yet jsut ignore what they say eventually theyll end up like working for you or sumthing in the future.

Answer 8

YES it does hurt to have people say things to intentionally hurt you.
BUT that is THEIR problem, not YOURS.
You have two choices, you can shrug it off to THEIR low self esteem (they make THEMSELVES feel superior to you by cutting you down).
Or you can LET them do what they intended to do in the first place, make you miserable.
Let them see that incredible person inside of you - YOU are ONE of a kind !
When they see their comments no longer bother you, they WILL leave you alone !
Don't stoop to their level and start shooting remarks to them in revenge, it will make you just as juvenille as they are.
bless you!
Debi

Answer 9

Never take crap from anyone! learn to love and defend yourself from the negative comments of those who may feel just as self conscious as you do. find what makes you stand out in a crowd and use it to your advantage.Even if it is different, always remember it is your differences that will make you unique.

Answer 10

It sounds like you need to find a new group of friends. If yours are constantly belittling you, find some people you have more in common with. There are many support groups out there as well.