is the lack of sex a mojor reason for marrige problems and mabye divorce?

Question

married 10 yrs 4 kids both work etc....

Answer 1

XXXXXXXXXXX It's not the lack of sex it's the lack of interest in sex that causes divorce. We all need to feel needed, and wanted and loved, and beautiful and special. !3 years here, four kids, sex...we still make love, two, three times a week. OOOOOOOOOoooooooooooooo XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Answer 2

sadly it probably is in most divorces- but it shouldnt be. People should be married for more than just a sex life. The problem is that too many people get married because they like the sex- but no matter how good it is, eventually people still get bored.

People should become best friends before they get married and stay that way- that means having so many things you respect and love about each other that if any of them fade, you still have other things to love about the person, and new ones begin to form.

Social maturity doesnt necessarily make a couple mature in a relationship. You become mature in a relationship when the partnership becomes the first priority. Once that happens, all other aspects can be fixed or substituted for something else.

I dont think divorces are a good thing but everyone makes mistakes. If it was a mistake getting married to begin with, and you get divorced- just make sure you are more mature in your next choices.

We dont always know in the beginning, but if people would put sex last on the reasons they like someone- it wont be an issue in marriage. It will be a pleasant highlite, to the many other wonderful aspects in the marriage.

Answer 3

I don't think sex is a HUGE reason for divorce I think it's the issue that leads to no sex, Like fighting all the time wheather it's over money, in-laws or different parenting styles, it could be anything really. If your married and you love your wife then you'll figure out why the sex in non existent and try and fix it. Most of the time it's because it's not that you love each other less, it's just that you're busy and by the end of the day the bed is where you want to be... but to sleep:-) Make time for each other...

Answer 4

Sex is really a show of affection between a husband and a wife and what really bothers me about people is that they suggest that as a human being one should be okay with going without this type of affection.

The show of affection one gives to a child is expressed through hugs and kisses. While people often argue that one can never give a child to much affection, the same respect isn't paid to adults who also need affection to thrive.

I think that sex has been so degraded that even between married couples sex has become this taboo issue that you should be able to avoid if you are a "Good Person". Sex isn't only about intercourse, though intercourse is involved, because to be frank, intercourse is the way two people who are committed to each other connect. You take that out of the relationship you start to lose your connection.

Funny, how we tell are children to wait till they get married to have sex. We tell them sex is an act of love that is only to happen betweem two people in love, just to trick them. Once they get married they're told they shouldn't be that concerned with it anyway, because it doesn't really matter. Which is it?

I say all this to say that of course lack of sex leads to divorce because when there is a lack of sex the connection created by that type of affection between a man and a woman eventually dies.

Answer 5

Sometimes, not always. Stress, financial problems play a major part in divorce's. There is several factor's. When you're in a relationship you know what the problem is, sex should'nt be the most important thang in a relationship. It's hard being a working mom, a wife. I am to, and sometimes I'm to tired. I give you credit, I mean 4 kids, working, and doing housework. Some not all women would not work, they leave it up to the husbands. He should lucky to have you, trying to work togather as a family.

Answer 6

i would agree with that partially, i think that couple time is really important but also family time. I am still trying to show my husband that both of these are important for different reasons. Couple time because you want to know who you are married to in ten years and family time so that the kids can see that they are just as important in your life as you are in theirs. A lot of other things go before sex does and that's where people need to work to make things better. I think sex is one of the major things especially if one of the partners want it more than the other and after trying to fix that problem and not getting a lot of response from a partner it could lead to divorce. Schedule a meeting once a week with your partner to find out what she wants from your relationship and stick to it think about the small things because they really are important

Answer 7

Depends on individual needs.. some people dont need to have sex very often some do.. the problems come when one wants it more then the other one, and yes it can lead to alot of problems.. it can lead into thinking the other doesnt love you , or doesnt find you sexy enough, it can make you feel extremely insecure.. and in some cases people will actually look to others to fufill their needs if their spouse isnt doing that for them.. like any other aspect of wants.. when someone is emotionally needy if their spouse doesnt fufill their needs and someone else does.. bingo , start of possible problems.. so yes lack of sex can possibly lead to marriage problems and possibly divorce..

Answer 8

it might make you to feel like you are growing apart. Making love is one thing that helps two people to become closer. So be careful you don't want to loose that closeness. And yes sex could be the cause for a marriage to break up. It might not be right but it happens. You need that physical contact Get a babysitter and take a night to enjoy each other and relax.

Answer 9

Believe it or not but yes I hear it all the time from my friends both females and males. For some unknown reason thier sex drives are opposite. It isn't more in one sex then the other. Reasons being too tired, stressed out from work, the kids. ect. For some unseen reason it comes down to sex.

Answer 10

I went to a marriage counselor once who said men want two things....sex and a clean house! She was pretty much right on the money. Sex is a major thing in a marriage. Men want it when they want it and if they dont get it from their wife, many will find it somewhere and that in turn leads to many divorces.