well i have had sex with my boyfriend a few times but i still wear my bra. its just that no one has ever seen my breast but me and i just dont want him to laugh or anything. is that wrong?
2006-07-13 14:03:10 · 18 answers · asked by ? 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
my boyfriend really wants to see my breast but he is not forcing me.
2006-07-13 14:04:42 · update #1
You should be happy with your body and confident before you share it with anyone else
2006-07-13 14:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by nellsky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there.
You sound a lot like me... when i started having sex before I was ready, which was when I was about 15. I was very self conscious about my body and how I looked naked in front of another person. And now that I'm older, I realize that a lot of that had to do with my not being ready to have such intimate contact with another person.
It is completely normal to be uncomfortable with your body, expecially during a time when you're so exposed. But trust someone who knows from experience, if you're so uncomfortable revealing your vagina than your breasts which are less... "intimate", it most likely means that you're not entirely ready for a sexual relationship.
I will say this though: The ONLY women who have perfectly round globes like models and actresses Are models and actresses and women who have them artificially created. They're breasts are not natural. Breasts were not made to sexually arouse men; they were made to nurse children and because of this it is NATURAL for breasts to be different sizes, to have large nipples and areolas and ones that are not in the center or the breast, to be saggy, and so on. So if you're concerned about the way they look, don't be. And if your boyfriend truly does care about you, then he won't laugh or make fun of you. And if he does, then he is not worth being with in the first place.
2006-07-13 14:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by Stina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good thing that he is not forcing it. Is there anything wrong with your breasts that makes you feel uncomfortable or insecure? Why would you think that he would laugh or anything? Have you tried telling your boyfriend about it? Did he ever ask you about your bra-attitude? If he did.. then you should be open to him especially if you are looking forward to being with this person forever.
But one thing more..... if there are doubts or fear inside your mind or heart... never have sex... believe me... sex maybe good and really satisfying but it never really satisfies you because it makes you want for more... go for the genuine touch.. reserve yourself to a guy worth it..
2006-07-13 14:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not wrong, it's completely normal. Women are frequently pressured into thinking they should look perfect, like models and tv personalities. We all know we're not perfect, everyone has insecurities and it's ok to be scared to let down your guard.
That being said, you don't want to be wearing your bra in bed forever. I think you should take a little time with yourself in the mirror; look at your breasts and point out all the things you like about them. Raise your confidence and become more comfortable with your body.
Then, be honest with your boyfriend about how you feel. Take things slowly and when he does see them, remember all the things you like about them. I'm sure he'll be doing the same thing in his mind! If he's already your boyfriend and already sleeping with you, I'm sure he'll have no problem with your breasts, especially if you don't.
Good Luck!
2006-07-13 14:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny you shouldnt be haveing sex when your not married but i know you wont be listening to any of that which i say so what you will listen to i'll give it strait if he dont care about your vagina he wont care about your breasts .
2006-07-13 14:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by J. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with them? If theres nothing wrong then it should be no problem if you both really care about each other then he wont laugh at you.
2006-07-13 14:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by SFGiantsLuver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was self-conscious at first too. What I did was wear a t-shirt...then my body was still covered but his hands could rome freely, that slowly lead to me being able to be completely naked with him.
--Stacey
2006-07-13 22:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by seaofclouds21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him how you feel. And maybe why you feel like that, too.
Build up the trust.
Then se how you feel.
If he's not forcing you then build up your confidence so that you can be comfortable...
2006-07-13 14:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong...
it's ok if your notcomfortable yet then don't.
It's good thing though that your guy doesn't force you. Completely nothing wrong with it.
2006-07-13 14:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by Nelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I(t took me a while too but once you feel comfortable enough with him it won't be such a big deal.You also have to learn to feel comfortable with yourself.
2006-07-13 14:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋