ok.. I am going to begin at the very beginning. I met a man online about 3 years ago. We started to date long distance flying back and forth to see one another. I was a single mother of 4 boys and I really wanted a man to love in my life. I had been divorced for over 6 years and kept meeting men that I couldnt stand. This man that I met was awesome with my kids and after a 6 month period of time, we both decided that we didnt want to live apart. I was in Washington state and he was in Kansas. He was transferring as a Federal officer to Colorado and asked me to please move there. Even though I was terrified to move, I did it. I got there, I took a job, I worked over 100 hours a week to get back on my feet after a move. His transfer never came through after waiting there working like a dog. He then asked me to move to Ks. During the time I worked in Colorado he called me and told me that he needed money to pay off a hospital bill or he would loose his job... due to officers not being .
2006-07-13 13:56:47 · 15 answers · asked by JOAN L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Officers not being allowed to have bills. He told me that he wanted to get married. We had spent almost every weekend together for over a year. I decided that I loved him enough to do just this. I packed up my kids and myself and I moved to KS. We had a date for marriage set for 1 year. That was my choice because I told him I wanted just a little more time. I ended up getting pregnant, so we pushed the marriage up to only 2 mos. He went in and bought himself a ring and gave me an old ring. After we got married, I was working a job where I ran into two women that he had sexually been with who were massage therapists. The whole time he was broke, it was my money I was sending for his massages, and he got extras for sex. The whole time we have been married, he hasnt bought one gift for me, my ring was his ex wifes old ring, and even though he hasnt cheated after marriage, his cop friends have said that he was hanging on this dispatcher telling them he would have sex with her. I dont think
2006-07-13 14:00:41 · update #1
I dont think the man loves me at all. He has never taken me out, and he is always accusing me of cheating. I know have a baby girl by him and pregnant again with another. I am scared and I dont know what to do. I am getting depressed, the sex is even all about him. He has never even taken care of my needs, its always me taking care of his sexually. I dont know what to do????????????????
2006-07-13 15:04:00 · update #2
If this is Jerry Springer sh*t, why don't you appear on Jerry Springer? They could use drama like this.
2006-07-13 14:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say don't waste any more time or money on this person it sounds like he is just using you and you CAN do better because you have children to consider. I understand that you may be lonely especially in a new place but you need to find yourself first. If you have been working that hard to get your life back on track you should be thinking about what you can do for you and your children not for a guy who doesn't know how to keep promises and expects YOU to move and uproot your children to be with him. You need to consider how your kids feel about moving all over the country especially if you are working 100 hours a week when you get to a new town, they need you too it doesn't matter how old they are. You and your kids don't need to be treated like this unless that's how you want your life to be. Get rid of him, live for you and your kids and a guy that IS worth it will come along when your ready to put another piece into your life puzzle
2006-07-13 14:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by traceylolanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for you. It seems like you've gotten yourself into a terrible situation over this man. I don't think he's the one for you. It will take courage, but you know you need to move on.
2006-07-15 08:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by cryptoscripto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohh wow, what a mess, you need to get yourself back on your feet and away from this jerk, pronto. UGH...I feel for you, but your best bet would be to get OUT...
His EX-wife's ring?? What a freaking jerk....and massage therapists?? prostitutes more like it....ugh. Get yourself checked for std's while your at it. Take this guy to the cleaners....ugh.
2006-07-14 05:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by celeste_moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
major red flag was when he was asking for money from a mother with children, he a grown man & single....... beforehand
now
sounds like it best to get out now before you end up paying for everything while he gets *massages*
you been the one made all the efforts ,you derserve a man that will make them for you & your children... best of luck hun.
2006-07-13 14:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by angel_lynn_7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats...you now have 4 boys instead of 3. this one is a little older and can take 1/2 your stuff when you divorce though.
open your eyes, the signs were all there.
2006-07-13 14:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by 2thseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmm damn.. dont even know what to say to this one..
Whats the saying..
Fool me once shame on u.. fool me twice.. shame on me.. that seems to be the only thing i can think of on this one.. i mean if he hasnt cheated on since marriage that could be forgiven ...but sounds more to me he's a cheap azz.. i dont know, u have to decide if he's worth all this..
2006-07-13 14:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i think u should leave him alone. let him take care of his own personal business. you have to much on your plate to worry about paying his bills and looking out for your kids. i mean u made your mind up to move but now he's asking for to much. he knows that u have a good heart don't let him run all over it.
2006-07-13 14:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by ant2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Girl I have to say that we don't see people for who they really are but what we think they will be or rather want them to be..My advice to you is really look over your life and what you want and what you have in your life.I'm a mom of six children so you also have your boys life in your hands also...but you know unlike the other ones who called you a name. i fell what you are saying and i fell your pain..but it is there in your face you have to look real close hon and see what the truth is and sometimes ppl will lie to save there butts or because they aren't happy in there owen life so they will make up things please don't listen to all that "he said she said stuff" good luck wish you the best!
2006-07-13 14:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by Angel wings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I am not a person much for a divorce and such. But girl (or woman if you perfer), I'd pack up and leave A.S.A.P!!! He is BAD news, and you do NOT need him!
I am very sorry that this has happened to you. But don't stay there.
2006-07-13 15:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 10:51:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋