I know its love. But it makes me so anry when they fight over stupid stuff, Like who battering the chicken and who is seasoning the chicken, They both are not fair to each other. Each one is trying to get over on the other. I didnt teach this, and my sister and i dont act like this . Where did they get it from?
I try to make them do things together like preparing dinner, practicing dance routines, grocery shop together.
What can i do it get me so upset that i find myself cursing and yelling and then i have an headache. Any positive suggestions. Leave your critics to your self. i am looking for a resolution so they get along. They are sister and i plan to have no more kids to offset that.
2006-07-13 13:55:19 · 9 answers · asked by !@#$$ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If it is just verbal fighting, in most cases, you should just let it play out. Let them settle their own disputes and they will take that lesson to heart.
on the other hand, if you are talking physical fights, that's another story. i remember when i was that age my sisters and i got in physical fights like you wouldn't believe. i mean all the time. My parents had their hands so full with 8 children, that they rarely got involved unless it was serious, like with hard hitting and punching. And over time, we learned to solve our own disputes and today i am close with most of my sibs. I know it takes a lot of patience, but it does work.
2006-07-16 04:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by Tammi M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my brother would fight all the time at that age, being boys it was proberably different. However i think the same solution will work. Each time we would fight about something we were both sent to do less desirable choirs seperate from eachother. If the fighting continued then she would give us early bedtime. If the fighting continued past that we would be given additional choirs and additional bedtime until we either were in our rooms for the rest of the day. or until the house was spotless. some days both. After a month or so of this we learned that fighting should be done away from parents and we would postpone are fights until our parents left the house or were in another room.
This may not solve the trouble of them fighting, but at least you will maintain your sanity.
Hails to the warriors,
Silence
2006-07-15 22:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by silencedwatcher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not YOU divide up what each girl is responsible for ? That way they dont fight about who is going to do what. Each will know what their duty is. Or let them take turns at doing things. This day/week the older one does "it" and the next day/week the younger one does "it". Kids just need boundaries and rules to follow. Once they have that they fall in line quick.
2006-07-13 21:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are very close in age so this is common....don't worry its just a phase....when they are older, they will start to lean on each other and realize how much their sisterhood is really worth....my sisters and i are (i'm the middle) 1 1/2 years apart and 2 1/2 years apart...i used to fight with them like crazy....my older sister and i stopped a long time ago during the age we started to 'mature'....we realized that we could talk to each other about stuff and that its easier to tell your sister......believe me, my mom used to wonder why we always fought....and asked WHERE DID THEY GET IT FROM? now, my little sister is beginning to get with the program and talks to us about stuff...we still fight sometimes, but its not like before....believe me, if my sisters and i eventually calmed down ANYONE WILL....so just wait....your daughters will be good friends in no time =)
2006-07-13 21:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by blue_bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so looking forward to some answers. I have 10 and 9 yr old girls that drive me crazy in the same way...Good luck!!!
2006-07-13 20:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by m_tlgtexpress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it looks like they are competing with each other. maybe its better that you don't have them do things together.Have them do things separately. that way they will have there own identity and not feel the need to compete with each other .one maybe good at one thing and the other something else .that way they both have their glory...its not always good to make kids do everything together....they need their space...
2006-07-13 21:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separate your daughters for the whole entire day and at the end of the day I can bet that they will miss each other to much to bicker at each other.
2006-07-13 21:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...umm maybe instead of always having them do everything together....try letting them take turns, and treat them both equal....always treating them equal is very important...compliment good jobs, but don't do it in a manner to make the other one jealous. try not to put them in situations where they are competing
2006-07-13 21:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by Demetris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol...so are my 11 and 9 yr. old sons.
2006-07-14 00:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by rcp5276 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋