There's this guy that I am very interested in. Have been for seven years, now. He had just gotten married right before we met. He and I always flirted with each other, but never did anything. Last year he told me "It doesn't take a brain surgeon to see how much I like you." He also said "if he were single he'd be beating down my door." Well, now, he's divorce. Has been since Feb. He'll flirt with me and then say he doesn't want to ruin our friendship. Then he'll turn around and flirt with me again, telling me how much he wants to be with me. I'll tell him, "yeah right. You need to stop playing with me." He'll reply; you never know.
He's been married three times. The 1st time was when he was in the service and he caught his wife screwing around. The second time shouldn't have happened. He married too soon after the 1st. Then the third time was cause of his daughter wanted to move in with him, and the 1st wife wouldn't let her until he was married. So mistake 3 happened.
2006-07-13 13:46:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have asked him a couple of times if he likes me, if he's interested in dating me and he won't answer me.Once he did say he didn't know. wtf? I don't know if he's scared, not interested, or what. I'm thinking of giving up, yet something inside me says don't. What do you think? He knows how I feel and yet won't tell me how he feels.
I don't want to push but I'd like to know where I stand. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I should handle this. this one has me totalle baffled. I'm use to men either saying yes, they're interested or no they're not.
2006-07-13 13:48:43 · update #1
Btw, when sex is brought up he makes excuses that he can't get it hard, and then tells me he was only joking. Or that sex doesn't interest him then starts talking dirty to me. The man can't seem to make up his mind.
2006-07-13 13:52:00 · update #2
Sounds as if he emotionally unavailable, before a relationship can
begin the guy has to be able to open up emotionally to you. Also
he knows you are into him but wont make a real move. He now
has control and is relishing in it. Best thing to do is ignore him for a good while, maybe date someone else. Once he sees you
are not going to wait around for him. He should come around. But when he does don't be eager, play it cool. Let him know you
have control now, and can decide if at all you want him romantically.
2006-07-13 14:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by ~confused~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just out of reach, so the thought of him drives you crazy, right? Well, back up and take a long COLD shower and THINK for a few minutes about what he has to offer you. 1] he's tried 3 times at marriage and failed 2] he jokes about being "unable to...", which might be true for all you know. 3] he's a good talker. Get with it girl - don't waste your time on someone that can't commit. You're only getting older - go look for a good and decent guy that hasn't been around so much. They are out there, but you need to decide to grow up a bit and look for a guy that doesn't carry so much baggage. Oh, and folks get divorced because of many more reasons than the one the guy picks out and decides to tell you about.
2006-07-13 21:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by mumsy_of_two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know him. He knows you. You have feelings for him and he knows you have them. Still either he is playing hard to get, or he just wants to play with you.
You want him so much, that you wouldn't even hear your heart telling you to let go.
You know he is unstable, married three times, divorced three times. You ready to be the fourth?
He is no good. You deserve better.
2006-07-13 20:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by umbralatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi:
i think you should give him some time and play hard to get. if his not sure of what he wants you can not go throwing yourself at him always.
i would ignore him and then look for his reaction, and thats how you gonna now, if his playing with you or if he really likes you, let him suffer a little dont be always around.
2006-07-13 21:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by XSA16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mite want to wait and see if things progress but if you are really worried about losin him tell him, let him know exactly and that eather way be friends but the best relationships are when they have been friends and especially when you have been for so long. you never know unless you try and a what if all your life isnt much fun!!! at least then you will know, take your gut and heart feelings its the best way to go.
2006-07-13 20:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why put yourself in the situation to potentially be mistake #4? I mean, look at his track record...........and as much as he might have an excuse for each divorce, the one common denominator is HIM.
2006-07-13 21:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to play hard to get with him, because he is in control right now and if you want to have a chance you need to take some of that control away
2006-07-13 20:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by jd_legacy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's divorced, and yu still care for him, start flirtiing with him, dress flirty when, and date him. Act flirty, when alone with him, too!
2006-07-13 21:00:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after you marry him, don't complain when you find him flirting with other women. also don't complain when he has another excuse why you become the 4th 'ex'
2006-07-13 20:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by 2thseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear a short skirt, no panties and a pair of sexy heels,then THROW yourself at him. If he doesn't respond, he's probably queer.
2006-07-13 20:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋