When your dating someone for a little while when do you decide hes not the one?

Question

ive been with my bf for 8 months tomorrow, we have been through alot , a pregnancy , we have good communication , but i feel like hes not the one for me , or im not the one for him im 19 hes 24 but i am also more mature for my age i dont like to party and get all f***** up. so im looking for a serious relationship

i feel like we are too close i mean, we fart infront of eachother, i critizise him like we've been together forever, hes like my bestfriend.

But why am i feeling like i should end it with him? i always get like this around my period

i lost the baby

Answer 1

theres sounds like theres alot goin on and makin you very depressed, seek a lil help for that and I think you will see things in a better light, as for too close its actually a great thing when you have it and you know you do you have the right thing goin on, but if your not happy its not. I think gettin a lil help from the doctor and talk to em they will let you know whats might be goin on, go from there before you do anythin, most of the time when we get like this around those times especially we are not rational, be careful and good luck

Answer 2

um... I am going to go out on a limb here and suggest that perhaps it is you who are not looking at this in a very mature way.

I know that you are "mature for your age" but... the fact that he likes to "party" and get drunk and what not does not mean that he is immature or irresponsible as long as he acts responsibly in his life.

(IE he has a job, he doesnt' drink and drive, he doesn't abuse you while drunk, he doesn't get drunk to escape his problems)

The fact that you feel like you have been together forever, and that you are his best friend is in fact.. the hall mark of a true and mature relationship.

I bet you are feeling the passion is gone right? (without further details I can't say for sure but most likely this is what the problem is). If that is the case welcome to relationships, Passion the feeling of "being in love" is nice, but it doesn't stick around it comes and it goes like the tide. To say that you don't feel you are right for eachother based on this (again you have provided no other facts) is immature, and you will find that it is NOT a reason to throw a perfectly good relationship away, which is what your contemplating.

Now the fact that you feel this way around your period... well if you feel one way when you are on your period but not other times that right there is a major red flag. Women can protest all they want about how their period doesn't affect them in any real way, and it simply is not true.

You need to examine your feelings as to why you don't feel this relationship is right, because on the surface it seems to be going pretty well. Communication is the NUMBER 1 thing that you have to have to maintain a relationship.

And as for feeling too close to one another, that is what happens when you are serious with sombody you let them see all aspects of you warts and all.

Have an honest conversation with YOURSELF about what YOU want. And I think you will find that if you are REALLY honest that what you have been searching for is staring you right in the face every day when you look at him.

That is just my .02 cents however, I could be wrong. Good luck and I hope this helps.

Answer 3

are u sure that this isn't a fear of commitment on ur part? many of us have this fear that our partner can be on the look out for the BBD or the bigger better deal. and if this is the case, then what is the point of getting into a relationship or even speaking ur mind with others if you just plan on leaving them sooner or later. know what I mean? hope I was of some assistance... =)

Answer 4

i started to pass on this one but i couldnt leave it alone..... you should have asked before you had a child. now that you do you need to quit asking that question... you need to think of your child i mean what could be worse then marring somone you feel that comfortable with??? your child can and probably will answer that question with where is my daddy and why cant daddy be here and tuck me into bed. if you didnt have a child i would have said think is this the dad you want for your child? everything leading up to marriage is practice for marriage. good luck

Answer 5

Trust your Gut instincts as that is one way you will know what to do. You mention a pregnancy ? This makes things a bit more difficult as if one person is not working.

Bringing a child into the equation changes things as the child have to be cared for etc.............

Answer 6

Sometimes as women we get into relationships too soon. Not realizing that when we enter a relationship we give it our all. Most of the time. When we do that we tend to get tired and we dont try as hard and we are not as easily impressed. As young as you are, its easy to tell that that you need adventure, anticipation and spontaneity. Its hard to tell you what to do. Think about it long and hard before you chang you life. Life changes are hard?

Answer 7

XXXXXXXXXXXX As the saying goes, TOO CLOSE FOR COMFORT. We all need our space. Maybe you two just need to be apart for a while before you make your decision. The wrong one might ruin a good relationship. Take your time, think it over, sleep on it for awhile, than decide. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Answer 8

Your first mistake was to get pregnant after only 8 months.

Answer 9

you are feeling like that because your brain is trying like hell to get the rest of you to wake up and get away. You are confusing familiarity and friendship with love. He is not for you and I think you alread know that. Always listen to your gut.

Answer 10

that sounds like its gonna be one helluva crappy life if you've only been with him 8 months and thats how he makes you feel. speakin from expirience...dont stay cuz u feel sorry or stay cuz "you've done so much together" please. Start doin things for yourself. And good luck