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My daughter is half caucasian and half Ecuadorian. This girl I know asked me the other day if I worry about my daughter growing up being bi-racial. I am not a discriminating, racist person and I don't see anything wrong with having children with somebody outside of your race. Do you agree or disagree?

2006-07-13 13:40:36 · 22 answers · asked by stacianastacia 2 in Society & Culture Other - Society & Culture

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I have a beautiful 32 yr old daughter ,her father is black and I am white,we have been married for over 35 yrs Our daughter is happy, successful,extremely well adjusted and she has never had anyone say anything even remotely racially derogatory to her. Shes open and friendly and in high school she was very popular ,cheerleader,homecoming Queen 3.9 grade average in college,.she grew up in Scottsdale ,AZ I wish you and your child happiness

2006-07-13 13:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Yakuza 7 · 0 0

I usually like to answer in humorous ways, but this calls for a serious answer.

First, don't worry too much about it, because you can't help it. It's too late. If you were considering whether to HAVE a child with someone of another race (i.e. if there was anything you could do about it), then it might be worth considering (although my personal answer would be "go for it", there's absolutely nothing wrong with it).

But let me share with you my philosophy regarding my ex-wife, whom I am now embarassed to look back at and realize I was ever in love with or married to: I can't regret the marriage, because it got me my two wonderful children. Nothing that created such beauty in my life can have been all bad.

The same is true for you. Will she have problems in life? Perhaps. You will need to raise her to understand that those who deride her for her skin color or mixed parentage are small minded bigots who aren't worth her time.

But for you, just love her, and realize you could not have had HER any other way than you did, so to spend time wishing she was not bi-racial is, in a very real sense, to wish you had some other child, and that's really not where I'm sure you want to go.

Good luck!

2006-07-13 13:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by Liam 2 · 0 0

I'm finding that as time goes on, it's getting harder and harder for people to fill out the little race box on surveys, applications, etc. There are a whole host of reasons why someone might argue not to have interracial relationships, families, etc. Heck, some of the reasons may even be valid. But I never believe it is proper to invoke "the sake of the children" as an argument. That is pure crap. If the kid is raised in an accepting environment, there should be no problem. I think it behooves you to make sure you live in a place where there are lots of different kinds of people and not in some backwater place (of any color makeup) where people are closed-minded (that's not just white, people).
Tiger Woods has black, caucasian, and Asian in his lineage. He did just fine in life. Far better than the people that worry about what color the kids are..

2006-07-13 13:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'm a native New Yorker who is 100% Chinese. My Irish-American husband and I have a 10-year-old biracial son who is happy and well-adjusted. He's actually quite a handsome boy who constantly gets compliments (to his embarassment -- "Why do people always have to say things like that?")
Biracial children have stronger genetic coding than purebreed people--more resistant to mutations, diseases, etc. Also, they are simply very attractive kids. My son speaks English (of course), French and some Chinese.
Spanish is the unofficial second language in the U.S., and it'd be wise for you to teach Spanish to your child. And you know...having a child with someone who you love is the ONLY thing that matters. Did you know that Raquel Welch is half Ecuadorian? (Recently she has talked about how hurtful it was to hide that fact...that her dad made them do it. She feels so much better now to claim ALL of her heritage.)

2006-07-16 10:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by chance 3 · 0 0

Theres no reason for you to worry! Being bi-racial is nothing to be concerned about, just think about it - your daughter is getting the best of 2 races!

2006-07-13 13:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

That depends. The sad reality is that children whose parents are different races often have a hard time finding associations with groups of their peers because they don't exactly fit the "mold". The best thing you can do is build your child's self-confidence so that she grows up knowing who and what she is - self-confidence is attractive and she'll be more apt to be comfortable enough with people of any race. I think parents should lead by example.

2006-07-13 13:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You shouldn't worry about it. Of course, there will always be certain people who have a problem with it. Don't use the energy to let them bother you. When your daughter is old enough to understand you can explain why some people may treat her different if the asks. With her having the traits of her mother and father, she will probably be very pretty.

2006-07-13 13:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by swcasper2001 4 · 0 0

Truth be told Humans are ONE species , no matter what color we come in! Blood is blood, bones are bones and Ecuador is mostly native american from pre colubus, bi-racial is a title we give for diferriation, [difference!] in these United States and most of the new world every one is a mix of one another! So what? Be thankfull your child is healthy, answer onlt to GOD!.

2006-07-13 13:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Should you worry? HELL NO! But I would worry about the girl who asked you that. She sounds like an Aryan airhead. My kids are black, white and American Indian. If you want the details. But first and foremost, they are people. I won't let anyone refer to them as "black children" cuz that's just idiotic, like they aren't part white and Indian too! I told them if anyone asked what color they were, to just look at their arm, show the person asking, and say. "Brown." You haven't a worry in the world, dear. It's not an issue unless you or someone else make it one. And most people these days aren't so shortsighted as to overly concern themselves, like that girl did.

2006-07-13 13:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by Shalom Yerushalayim 5 · 0 0

No your toddler is in simple terms no longer bi-racial...at first bi-racial is a time period used to categorise human beings of blended descent while anybody or figure is of a diverse ethnic makeup altogether! Technically, the toddler should be multi-ethnic yet to say it's going to be bi-racial is slightly a lot. besides to, being Hispanic ability you larger than in all probability have a blended historic previous. Latin human beings are a outcome of blend! maximum latin ppl are surely blended or Amerindian. there's a small team of those who've frequently ecu or in simple terms ecu historic previous that are considered Hispanic. Now in case your historic previous is often ecu (which looks so because you've red hair and eco-friendly eyes) then nice. Hispanic isn't your race besides. Its only a category used to describe human beings of Latin descent inspite of race. some examples of white ppl from Latin u . s . a . of america are Giselle Bunchen, etc. Her historic previous is carefully ecu yet her nationality continues to be Brazillian. Adriana Lima is blended opposite to widely used idea and he or she seems it. those who're surely white and hispanic yet seem white are Cameron Diaz, Christina Aguilera, the bypass over universes! those who're white and hispanic yet seem spanish frequently Jessica Alba, etc. Do you consider your self white or do you in simple terms have the seems of a white man or woman? It appears like you call your self white depending off your seems no longer your historic previous. if so, your toddler will be or seem white. in case you consider your self a "white-hispanic" your toddler will be a white-hispanic!! Bottomline. Hispanic is in basic terms a category to symbolize territorial nationality no longer race. possibly you've surpassed for being white yet you nevertheless do no longer count number as white by the U. S. Census because its makes an actually specification of non-Hispanic White! So there..you're literally not white yet your toddler is in simple terms no longer bi-racial...end of tale.

2016-10-14 10:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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