and do you think she wold leave me if i told her i was?
2006-07-13 13:25:28 · 23 answers · asked by drisco21 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if she does, she doesn't deserve you. i would tell her the truth. she might even find it sexy.
2006-07-13 13:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by bOb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you tell her "No" won't you be lying? If you say "yes, I think so" then she'll know as much as you.
BUT when you tell her, tell her why you're with her, why you don't want to lose her which is why you've been saying "No" all this time - even to yourself....
...tell her how faithful you mean to be with her and tht you don't want to run off at the first opportunity.
above all, show her how special she makes you feel, how glad you are that you two are together and that you are able to share.
2006-07-13 20:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her exactly what you wrote here, that you "think" you are. Elaborate a little on why you think so.
I have no idea if she'd leave you. Guess that depends on how long you've been together and whether or not you intend (or have) acted on those bisexual feelings.
2006-07-13 20:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by lily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not nearly enough info to predict if she'll break up.
When she asks, what's her tone? Does she sound suspicous or skeptical, angry, what? She may be into bi-guys and is HOPING you're bi. Or, she may suspect it, and wanna know cuz she's against it. I'd carefully feel her out on the subject. Clues to her attitiude will help with the decision.
2006-07-16 00:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always should tell the truth... Wouldn't you want the Truth if the tables were turned?? If you tell her and she leaves you, well then that just goes to show you that she's not the one for you.... You seem to be an open-minded person, and you need to be with one as well, if she leaves you, it's for your better...
2006-07-13 20:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by amygirl9333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty to yourself first. That is your only way to happiness. If you are bi or have gay tendencies you will only find happiness by pursuing them. Yes, she needs to know. The risk is there that she may not be able to handle the truth, but then you would not be happy with her if you didn't tell her and tried to ignore your true self.
2006-07-13 20:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by quikzip7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How ready are you for what might happen if you tell her? I don't believe in lying, but if she'd freak and ruin your reputation with friends and school and so forth, and you don't really even KNOW that you are bi, why bother? Wait until you've been with guys, and until you are emotionally ready to deal with the ramifications of telling her.
2006-07-13 21:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her...honestly is always the best path.. short term, it may seem like it was a bad decision but long term, it would be best for both of you
she has a right to know, as would you if tables were turned. if she accepts you, then great...if not...it's still great b/c then you have an opportunity to search for that one person who will accept you and love you for EXACTLY who you are!!
good luck!
2006-07-13 20:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lady D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she truely loves you then no, she wouldn't leave. If you're not sure then share that with her. I'm sure she'll understand. Maybe she's asking because she thinks she's bi.. alot of women seem to be these days.
2006-07-13 22:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by lecia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one keeps asking the same question if they are satisfied of the answer the first time.
Here is a novel idea - be HONEST!
2006-07-17 13:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's asking, she probably already knows, or atleast has a gut feeling. Come clean, not telling will cause more stress/drama. And if she leaves, she leaves, but atleast you can be YOURSELF!!!
2006-07-13 20:31:07 · answer #11 · answered by Mom24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋