if then 7 months after you get married he starts seeing someone else and you found out, would you then stop your birth control to get pregnant? what if he moves out on you and in with his girlfriend when you are in you 8th month and comes back when the baby is born, would you think he really loves you, and wants to be with you? what if for the next 2 years he continues to see this girl, and moves out to live with her and comes back when you give him seperation papers, would you believe that he really loves you and wil be with only you? now it is 4 years and he has gotten the other girl pregnant, do you stay with him? is it possible to really believe that a man who does this loves you?
2006-07-13 13:22:29 · 34 answers · asked by what2do? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what about the girl he keeps going back to? isnt she to blame?
2006-07-13 13:30:59 · update #1
this is hypothetical in the sence that i know the woman who married this man, stopped the bc and has had is child and she is in this land of denial and i was wondering if i am the only one who thinks he is out of her damn mind, she thinks that the girlfriend got pregnant on purpose and that he wil not want a relationship with his soon to be other child.....she needs help!!!
2006-07-13 13:52:54 · update #2
NO!
the answer to ALL of your questions is NO!
if someones been cheating on u for 7 years .. he'll cheat after getting married as well .. u deserve much better than this ...
2006-07-13 13:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Honey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know if you have to ask ,you all ready know.Of course he doesn't love you.The left while you were pregnant and came back now this other woman having his child to.He want his cake and eat it too and you have allowed him to do this.He will get away with what you let him and it's been going on this far without you saying a word.Stop being a door mate for this man and do you.Life is to short for you to sit around and let this man lay up with you and her.He's showing you who he really wants and it's not you.Please stop being the victim and be a survivor.
2006-07-13 13:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously were not thinking clearly at any point over the last 7 years. I say you let him go and get on with your life. The only reason he keeps coming back is because you allow him too and he doesn't have to pay you child support. If you stay your family is going to suffer because he will always cheat on you and you can never trust him. Also part of your combined income is going to be going to pay her for child support for her child. They will forever be tied. Can you honestly say that it would be okay for you to help raise a child that he conceived with someone else while he was married to you?
2006-07-13 13:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by hopeless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are more than a little slow around the edges, aren't you? You have lived in a mess of self lies for so long you have no idea what you are talking about, who you are, what you want, and what to do. Are you really that pitiful? You have allowed yourself to be played endlessly and sit there like a doormat. I guess you don't have a very high opinion of yourself...why should he? Of course he doesn't love you like you want to be loved...you are no more than a convenience to him, always there when he wants to "come home," always there to give him a lay when he wants, ... in fact, I am surprised you don't make arrangements for his affairs for him...or perhaps you do. Does he love you...yes, for what he can get out of you when, and only when he needs it. You are the biggest fool I have read about here. Sorry to be so harsh, but perhaps it is time someone slapped you in the face with reality. Well, here's your slap. And speaking of "here's your..", have you ever listened to "Here's your sign" by Jeff Foxworthy? This song was written based on your life. "Here's your sign."
2006-07-13 13:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no!!! don't do it. because if you get marry it will be worst. and do not stop your birth control pill. because by having a baby a men is not going to stay with you. he be happy because he could come and go when ever he wants? because you have his baby. cheaper will always be a cheater girl. and he had a baby by some other girl run now while you can. that's not good at all. you will never be happy. trust me please. enjoy you life to the fullest sweetie. they are good men out there but! there are hard to find. just enjoy yours. bye and good luck. don't let love make up your mind. love is like a drug .
2006-07-13 13:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-13 13:55:12 · answer #6 · answered by 2thseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you? Not with him but you? Why have you let this man ruin your self esteem so much? Leave that son of B#$%*h! Cant you see he is using you to have sex avalable to him when he wants and a place to stay. He doesn't like to be by him self. Why do permit this? He is walking all over you and you are letting him do it...don't complaint about it because you are the only who can do something about it.
2006-07-13 13:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by gladys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO. He "loves" the fact that you're there cause you're naive and actually believe there's something good happening...truth is, once you kick his sorry a s s to the curb, a lot of good will come your way as you've now gotten rid of some of the clutter in your home.
2006-07-13 13:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by WiseWon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to your own question. Otherwise you wouldn't be looking for approval or understanding. You need to have more self-worth and get out of that relationship. Remember the old saying:
"ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER" and
For every door mat, there is a set of of feet wiping off.
MOVE ON!!!!
2006-07-13 13:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by LoveMyJacks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This amounts to emotional abuse. This man has no soul and the woman who allows this is a doormat even in her own mind. She has allowed this man to ruin her life, which he will merrily continue to do as long as she stays with him. Blaming the other woman is pointless as she is in the same stupid position.
2006-07-14 15:13:34 · answer #10 · answered by julz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋