but the 2nd parent (who has lots of money for the best lawyers) is telling the child in their care tons of lies to the point that the child refuses to speak to or spend time with the "good" parent.What can the good parent do? I've read some answers on here that were 100% wrong. You cannot get a state appointed lawyer unless it is a "criminal case" against you. Legal Aid does not do custody cases. Pro Bono? Forget it! The child with the good parent is forced by law to spend 4 days a month with the bad parent & grandparents who, since the custody hearing, have treated her like dirt. Suttle insults, ignored, they NEVER call her, STOPPED ALLOWANCE, STOPPED SHOPPING TRIPS, everything they used to do for/with her. So, what can the good parent do with no lawyer? The child said if she's forced to go this weekend she's running away. They need help now! PLEASE ONLY GOOD, SERIOUS ADVICE.
2006-07-13 13:02:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
She called to get mediation & his lawyer said NO
2006-07-13 13:51:15 · update #1
The son is being lied to & kept away from his mom & the truth. The daughter wanted nothing to do with the custody change but the dad's lawyer said it'd look better if both kids want to go. The judge asked who they wanted to live with. Then told the daughter that she might not get her way cause mom can't pay a lawyer. The state law says that ALL domestic violence must be considered. The judge NEVER read anything about it. The mom doesn't lie, nor does she involve the girl in every nasty fight. "dad" told them to lie from the beginning & the mom had no idea until the cop drove up with a summons. All the mom wants is her kids home & safe. The judge & lawyer didn't care that the father threatened to murder the mom several times!
2006-07-13 16:06:50 · update #2
"I don't want the ten points, but I do want someone to get those poor kids out of that squabble not of their making"
You don't deserve any points! A family is ripped apart. 1 parent is a wife beating, (maybe recovering drunk & drug addict) The kids are not pawns! The mom is trying to save them both! No the kids don't talk anymore because the son is NOT allowed to call or visit the Mother! GET IT???!
2006-07-13 16:14:41 · update #3
First of all, please ignore anything "bright light" wrote. What a horribly rude, insensitive, sorry individual!
Now, I understand about the no money-no help issue. However, what the Mom can do is:
1. Keep a log of every phone call to her son & the outcome (did they answer, get voicemail, did you leave a message, if so what?)
2. If they answer, record the call.
3. Everytime the dad denies visitation or calls, go to the police & file a report. The DA has to prosecute him for interfering with a parenting plan, (big name for contempt.
4. If it's not safe to go to the Ex's house, then 2-3 times per week, call the police & ask them to go check on your son, they have to do it.
4. If there is a history of violence, demand the police reports.
5. Tell her that once the DA takes over, she'll have to wait for a hearing. It'll be hard, but she will win in the end. As for you, you are a great friend to care enough to ask for help & put up with the stupid people spewing venom on here. Best Wishes!!
2006-07-14 05:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by grrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, both kids are being screwed over. Is this a movie? The child in the Good Parent's custody hates the other parent and the child in the Evil Overlord's custody hates the Good Parent (although that is just because of mind control).
Do the siblings get to spend any time with one another? Is each kid going it alone, serving as a pawn in this contest among their parents? Are there any neutral parties in all of this?
I don't want the ten points, but I do want someone to get those poor kids out of that squabble not of their making.
Edit: Thanks, your rant in the guise of addt'l info just confirms my impression. I pity the kids and hope someone will be able to intervene to save them. BTW, this isn't the site to get information. In order to do anything other than have a pity party, there need to be real facts exchanged. For example, where do these people live, state laws vary. What legal proceedings have taken place, what decisions have been rendered, what proceedings are still pending. Go to your local library and find out what social service organizations are available and what resources they have. Contact local polititians and ask for help or advice. Useless activity = getting angry and pissy at people on the internet.
2006-07-13 14:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by Bright Light 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you are from but here is what I know in Arizona. Yes it is possible to collect court ordered child support from 2 different fathers. We have a little worksheet that calculates for us based upon things such as income of both parents, time with each parent, insurance and other things that determine the amount. Child support from other fathers and spousal maintenance are put onto the Mother's side of the sheet and the amount is adjusted accordingly. Also depending on how much you were paying her in the past and If you have proof of all payments such as cancelled checks that you can order from your bank there is also the possibility of over payment or getting arrears (unpaid child support that is owed) tacked on which gain interest at 10% per annum for up to the last 5 years. Honestly I would just keep paying her something if you can't afford a lawyer just to cover yourself in the future.
2016-03-27 04:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops every time he refuses visitation. Eventually the cops will tire of him & the DA will either fine, take custody, or put him in jail or all 3. Tell her to keep obeying the order no matter how hard. Tell her to make the daughter carry a tape recorder in her purse pocket whatever and make sure she has a cell phone at all times & don't let the dad know.
2006-07-14 08:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by awnery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It to bad there is no way you can get in touch with mediation services. To avoid going to court in the case of divorce and child custody cases. It is best for all that the family goes to a mediator that can help the family out with this custody battle. In the divorce children get caught in the middle. You didn't say how old the child is if they are 16 they can choose who they want to live with. I know of one 16 year old who is living with her mom, while her younger siblings are living with dad and the step mom. This child has been place in a very bad situation. Divorce is never easy, and it's usually hard on children. Also usually it's the bad parent who has money get what they want out of the court service. If there is a divorce councelling service in your area go to them and seek help either wise I don't know what I can suggest.
2006-07-13 13:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by Gail M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good parent must file a case against the bad parent in court. Statements of witnesses must accompany the complaint of the good parent.
2006-07-13 13:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend has the same thing,she missed her son terribly.without laods of money your friend may be in trouble,lawyers are a crappy guys who cares about money and not a thing about souls.
2006-07-13 13:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by mak_nit_crimson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please take me serious, I've been through it, no money - no rights! UNTIL NOW!!! I can show you a set out attorneys in your area that fight for US who want and love our kids, IM me or email me for further info.
2006-07-13 13:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by Phillip D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋