I mean i think if more people put in half as much work into their marriage as they do into their weddings there wouldnt be so many divorces. They'd realize that marriage takes work and their days together wont always be as perfect as they day they got married.
2006-07-13 12:13:30 · 14 answers · asked by Sxyblkdiva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People get caught up in the moment and it is their day to shine. They want everything to be perfect, and they are probably seeking to top whatever weddings they have been to in the past, or make sure they have a better wedding than the last person who got married. They want the best. Their concern is on the here and now and not the future. What can I do now to be the best? Honestly, I think the people spending all this time and money on their wedding are expending so much energy that they just do not have the time or stamina to deal with maintaining a successful relationship through marriage. They are the reason that the divorce rate is so high.
Marriage should be about a commitment to one another and a desire to spend your life together. Working through both the good and the bad. Weddings should not focus on who spent what or did what at their wedding, but rather the love of the two people involved.
I have a friend getting married who's already up to about $17,000 on her wedding. It's for one day! I would rather spend as little as possible and put the difference away to save for a house. It's ridiculous to spend such a great sum of money on one day. As long as you are there with the love of your life and looking forward to the years to come, sure celebrate, but relish in your love, not in the amount of money you spent.
2006-07-13 12:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by dotdictus 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with chicnfngas answer. While a marriage is a very special event in ones life and should be a wonderful day for all involved, its not the perfect wedding people should be spending loads of money on, you can have your perfect wedding much much much cheaper.
The perfect wedding lies in the couple working hard to try and achieve the perfect marriage and not the perfect wedding...some people just like to put on a show or demonstrate their wealth and extravagance. Who really needs a big showy wedding anyway?
As you say its their marriage that needs to be worked at to be perfected not their wedding day.
2006-07-13 19:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree. People should focus more on the union rather than the event. I've been married to my husband for 5 years, together for 11 years, and have known each other since we were 12. Normally women want the big wedding and the men don't care. Well in our situation, it was reversed. I didn't really care to have everybody and their family member there just for free food. In fact, I didn't care who showed up as long as my husband was there and that's what's important. We haven't had the greatest marriage, but it hasn't been the worst either. I think the reason that so many marriages fail is because no one is willing to work things out anymore. Bottom line.
2006-07-13 19:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by peaceandlove3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are more inclined to put on the production where as marraige tends to be the boring part after all of the hoopla is done. It should be the other way around but if we would stop giving up the second things go wrong we would probably have longer lasting marriages. Another issue is cheaters. Men and women. People always think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence til they get over there and see that it is brown. Then they want to come back. But I have a philosophy. Cheat once its a mistake. Cheat twice and thats a habit gotta go!
2006-07-13 19:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AGREE!! I spent as little time and money as possible planning my wedding, because it wasn't about ONE day, but it was about the rest of my life.
For some people, it's their PARENTS who feel the need to put on a big show to impress their friends. For some, it's women who are bombarded by images in media while growing up that a wedding is EVERYTHING and they must make it the greatest day of their lives. Some people even get married JUST for the wedding (and of couse, end up divorced) It's ridiculous
Weddings are an INDUSTRY, a whored-out media nightmare, and the sacredness of the ceremony has been LOST in the expectation of the "perfect day"
2006-07-13 20:02:19 · answer #5 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl that is a GOOD QUESTION, I think many who get married are all caught up in the thought of marriage than the work that one has to put into staying together, Then some get married for the wrong reasons. LOVE, LOVE and LOVE only should be the main reason why we should get married, Because LOVE is Long suffering and that would help a marriage to work and we would be able to stay together until death did us apart. 1Corinthians 13:4-8
2006-07-13 19:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by sweettoni37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excellent question. Sounds like you may have had a bad experience. If so, sorry to hear about it. Weddings can be a status symbol.. Marriages are too much work for some.
2006-07-13 19:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by Paleo C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, you only marry once for the first time and you want it to be a perfect as possible. A marriage lasts for awhile and you have time on your side to "possible" fix what when wrong !!!
2006-07-13 19:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have their priorities backwards. I had a quickie wedding at the justice of the peace and am glad I did. I've been married for over ten years.
2006-07-15 16:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by cryptoscripto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right, couples should also take the time to really know each other, like finances and religious beliefs. unfortunately that does not happen, hence the high rate of divorce.
2006-07-13 19:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋