Here is my delima. I left my husband over a year ago and since then I have become pregnant by someone else. He won't pay his share of the dissolution so now I am afraid that when my baby is born in September, he'll be the step-father and have some kind of rights over my child. He also has someone else pregnant and if he waits until my child is born to do anything about the divorce, should I wait until his is born in December/January to do anything as well?
He lives in a disgusting house where in the winter there is no heat but a kerosene heater and the water pipes freeze for weeks at a time. The house has dust in it at least an inch thick on almost everything. The house has dirt piles inches high and it's slowly falling apart. His mother is a doped up freak who wouldn't wake up to a baby crying to save her life. She falls asleep so easily that if she were holding thier child she could easily drop it. Is there something I could/should do about thier baby? I'm more than aliitle worried.
2006-07-13 12:08:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, That is deep! I really couldn't tell you anything but to start talking to someone with Dept. of health and human services and lay it all out there for them your concerns etc. and if they can't help you they for sure should point you in the right direction.
Good luck.
2006-07-13 15:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by "THE BEAST" 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this is true about the other girls baby than yes i would make a call. But if comes out unfounded you my be charged with making a false statement. So research before you ever call in the state many family's that had no reason for the child services to be called lives were ripped apart they take away kids first and ask questions later. As for you if you are worried about losing your child i would take parenting classes and have a clean and safe place to live plus you need a good job to show the court that you are a willing parent. Good Luck
2006-07-13 12:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how your state looks at this type of situation. Where I am a pregnant woman can't get a divorce. They can file, but it isn't official until after the baby's birth regardless of who the father is.
Usually the court will look at your current spouse as to being the father of the child (biological or not) and yes he does have the ability to sue for visitation and/or custody; but in return you may be eligible for child support.
Consult with an attorney from your area, many offer an initial consultation free of charge. You can try to file on your own and see where it goes. I have had several friends prepare their own divorce papers with a kit from Staples, or from an online service. If you can agree on everything before hand it saves a lot of time and money.
2006-07-13 12:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by dannyl410 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most states have a procedure called "Legal Separation" that only one party has to file. That severs any future legal entanglement, but doesn't resolve issues regarding division of assets. However, you might want to gently point out to him that if he doesn't help pay for the dissolution that you will have grounds to sue him for child support. I suspect that he'll be a bit more cooperative after you drop that bomb on him.
2006-07-13 12:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by Pepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that worried why don't you pay for the divorce? If you wait until you have the baby the law automatically assumes it is your husbands and you have to go to court to prove that he isn't. If he is a nasty person he could sue you for joint custody and get visitation privleges. Or you could just get child support from him. So make up your mind do you want to wait on money from him or do you want to pay for it yourself. Where is the baby's dad? Tell him to give you the money for the divorce.
2006-07-13 12:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 05:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you contact child care services, explain them your problem, and most probably they would testify for you if you open a case against him.And it's better if you and the father of your baby decide to get married and start a family it would be even much more better.
2006-07-13 12:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by scorpion prince89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worry about your own unborn child. Call Child Protective Services on them if things haven't improved by then. Good luck!
2006-07-13 12:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by itsmeee2006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely the court will give you custody of your child.
2006-07-13 12:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by puppet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't have any rights to the child your carrying now, unless somehow it's his, biologically??? Divorced or not...
2006-07-13 12:55:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋