Recently I started talking to a man who has been married for 11 years, has three children and owns his own buisness. He want's me and him to hook up for a date. I really really don't want to dig myself into a hole that I may not be able to get out of but what should I do. Should I continue talking to him or should I just back off ?
2006-07-13 12:05:30 · 26 answers · asked by Liza J 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Dont get involved!!! He has kids, and if things go bad between him and his wife because of this, it will destory the kids even more.
2006-07-13 12:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by saraharoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already know what to do, or that is, what not to do. Don't keep yourself in the position of getting into trouble, it's always easier to get into trouble than out of it. Regardless of what he tells you, how he whines about his wife, she is still his wife, and they have 3 kids together. Don't play with fire. If he does his own wife this way, (trying to run around behind her back), imagine how he will treat you later on down the line, given the opportunity. Marriage is sacred, regardless if he recognizes that or not. The Bible says, "what God has joined together, let no man put asunder." Don't continue talking to him, you will be glad in the long run if you turn away now. By the way, in some states, you can be sued by the wife in some cases if she discovers that you are running around with her husband. Bottom line, don't continue on with him in any way, or else you make it more difficult to get out of later. It's a mistake if you keep on talking to him, knowing his intentions.
2006-07-13 21:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by curious me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope you do not have that low of self-confidence to accept being the "other woman" in his life. Don't you deserve a man who'll give you your rightful place? Do you want to be known as a home wrecker? Maybe he's the next Todd Peterson?
Seriously, stay away from him. No one can see into the future but something that begins wrong really has no other way to go. Have some self esteem and confidence, no one deserves to be 2nd place in a personal relationship and that's exactly where you'll find yourself. 2nd best.
2006-07-13 19:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by bitto luv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely back off. It's not a good idea to be the 'other woman'. You'll end up feeling guilty and your self-esteem will plummet. Besides, his wanting to hook up is an indicator of the type of person he is- deceitful and irresponsible (no matter how charming or attractive he may seem to be).
Honestly, you sound like a decent person and you deserve someone who'll be yours and only yours.
Just tell him you can't see him because of his situation and that you don't want to get involved with someone who can't be 100% involved right back.
2006-07-13 19:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by kia78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experience. I was the other man and had lived through 5 divorces between my two parents and their various marriages. I was so totally committed to not going through one for myself I would do anything to keep it.
The problem was I was not self confident and wound up marrying a married woman. (She divorced the other guy first) The thing about marrying somebody who'll break off a relationship of such deep commitment is that he will break off the commitment to you far easier than he did to her. (11 years)
2006-07-13 19:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BACK OFF! Do you really want to be the skanky other woman? Find a man of your own, not someone else's. Think of his children and his wife of 11 years. Do you really want to be known as the tramp who ruined the family? I don't think so. He'll just find someone else to fulfill his desires of being a himbo. (male bimbo.)
2006-07-13 19:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by someone in the world 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry girl but you should back off if you dont your just digging your own grave .you may like him a lot but he has kids and if you mess with his marriage and if they devours the kids can go weeks months or years without seeing there dad trust me dont it will hurt them bad. and his wife would hurt everyday if you really cared about this man you would let him be with his family
2006-07-13 19:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by hip hop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just back off, dont have anything to do with breaking up a family or a home, let that man be scandelous on his own.
2006-07-13 19:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by mamacita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to back away. If he really wants a relationship, he should divorce his wife. Wait about 6 months and really ask you out.
2006-07-13 19:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by Chupacabras 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Liza! You already know the answer to this....why create trouble for yourself? If he cheats with you he will cheat ON you. If I were you I would tell his wife so she could finally be exposed to his true colors and have the man she really deserves.
2006-07-13 19:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by Luna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off, definitely! you don't want to be a homewrecker, plus if the man would cheat on his wife of 11 years, does he really care about you?
2006-07-13 19:09:05 · answer #11 · answered by no such user 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋