How to recognize/realize someone ,or that I am dealing with is a bully?

Answer 1

You can tell if you're dealing with a bully if they are harassing you and mentally or physically abusing you.

Answer 2

Are they into guns, and other weapons?
Do they believe that there are certain behaviors for women, and different behaviors for men?
Do they verbally put you down?
Do they hit you? Then apologize for having done so?
Do they bring you gifts after they have hit you?
Do they come home late and not tell you what they have been doing? Or do they come and tell you exactly what they have done and tell you to deal with it, cus, that's who they are?
Do they like playing around with weapons, discuss weapons alot?
Watch a lot of violent movies, play violent games?

Answer 3

* constant nit-picking, fault-finding and criticism of a trivial nature - the triviality, regularity and frequency betray bullying; often there is a grain of truth (but only a grain) in the criticism to fool you into believing the criticism has validity, which it does not; often, the criticism is based on distortion, misrepresentation or fabrication
* simultaneous with the criticism, a constant refusal to acknowledge you and your contributions and achievements or to recognise your existence and value
* constant attempts to undermine you and your position, status, worth, value and potential
* where you are in a group (eg at work), being singled out and treated differently; for instance, everyone else can get away with murder but the moment you put a foot wrong - however trivial - action is taken against you
* being isolated and separated from colleagues, excluded from what's going on, marginalized, overruled, ignored, sidelined, frozen out, sent to Coventry
* being belittled, demeaned and patronised, especially in front of others
* being humiliated, shouted at and threatened, often in front of others
* being overloaded with work, or having all your work taken away and replaced with either menial tasks (filing, photocopying, minute taking) or with no work at all
* finding that your work - and the credit for it - is stolen and plagiarised
* having your responsibility increased but your authority taken away
* having annual leave, sickness leave, and - especially - compassionate leave refused
* being denied training necessary for you to fulfil your duties
* having unrealistic goals set, which change as you approach them
* ditto deadlines which are changed at short notice - or no notice - and without you being informed until it's too late
* finding that everything you say and do is twisted, distorted and misrepresented
* being subjected to disciplinary procedures with verbal or written warnings imposed for trivial or fabricated reasons and without proper investigation
* being coerced into leaving through no fault of your own, constructive dismissal, early or ill-health retirement, etc

Answer 4

if you suddenly hear rumors about you and people say that it was them. Thats harassing you mentally, or if they make fun of you. or if they even touch you and hurt you. but if the person says something mean and says "only joking" then they probably aren't a bully.

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Answer 5

Do the things they say and do give you pause, make you think they are cutting you down? Do they criticize you a lot , then say "oh I'm only kidding" -- Do you hear them say it's "your perception" when you call them on it? IE, they blame you for things they do that are mean?
Try reading The Verbal Abuse Handbook.

Answer 6

I think someone is a bully when they try to manipulate me or tell me what to think, because, of course, they are more knowledgeable than I am

Answer 7

some people just want to see what you are made of, what i have done in the past to folks that give me a hard time is ignore them for a bit and then throw a prearranged fit, i pick my own battles and don't let others choose them for.

hope this helps.

Answer 8

If they keep punching you that would be an indicator

If they always take your lunch money that would be an indicator

If they hold your head in a toilet and flush it That would be an indicator.

Answer 9

Confront this person without blinking and challenge them.
Bullies are insecure people.
Bullies always back down.

Answer 10

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bully