He's really cleaned up his act, but the 3 years of emotional and financial abuse has left me with no respect or trust in him. Financially we are devistated, and had to move in with my parents to keep a roof over our heads.
How do I tell him I want out of this marrage, but want to remain partners in raising our 2 beautiful kids?
2006-07-13 11:57:06 · 5 answers · asked by Josie B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me clarify, we ALL moved in with my mom and dad. We're not separated.
2006-07-13 12:11:10 · update #1
have you tried counseling? you may feel emotionally drained at this point given his past abuse. Maybe the trust can be reinstated with a different mid frame.
however, if you honestly don't feel you will ever have faith in him again, then just leave. he will be angry for a bit, thinking he did all of this changing for you. It will fade. He has to lash out at someone. If he does withdraw and returns to his previous way of life, DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF. that will only tell you he was capable of re-using and would have done so in the future anyway. I still suggest counseling. when you talk about what you need to go through together, it will help you survive what time you need to be able to communicate on behalf of your children. It may help him disolve the anger you know he will have.
2006-07-13 13:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you stayed with him during the drug use, why would you leave now that hes really clean and trying. Only you can decide, sounds like you guys are really in a bad situation right now, and that definitly can cause resentment. Maybe now that hes of right mind he can clean up the mess that he got you and the family into. So easy to fall, so hard to climb back up , it takes time. I hope it works out for you either way.
2006-07-13 12:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by ironica7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your pain. More then you realize. It doesnt have to be just meth that causes pain. A man can just spend money on strippers, other things, etc...
My suggestion to you isnt to get a divorce right off. Leave and be by yourself for awhile. Tell him you need time. If you still feel this way after being alone then get divorced. However, remember that you married him for better and for worse! That doesnt mean he can beat you, etc..., but I will tell you divorce messes up kids badly.
I would suggest during this time of seperation that you date. See if you can get back that " Feeling" you once had. If its gone... its gone!
2006-07-13 12:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anna Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he stopped for you and the kids than that is a big decision he made. If you still love him, why not give him a chance? Unless you think he might go back to his old habits then you need to stay away. Keep the kids away from him even if his the father. Meth is no good!!!
2006-07-13 12:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by superdude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE CAN AND WILL PICK THE HABBIT RIGHT BACK UP YOU ARE WITHIN YOUR RIGHTS TO GET RID OF HIM AND ALSO YOU ARE NOT BEING A GOOD PARENT BY KEEPING HIM IN THE HOUSE
2006-07-13 12:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋