2006-07-13 11:15:23 · 24 answers · asked by cj 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My partner and I are 12 years apart (23-36). She is very mature for her age. But latley folks who find out about are age difference make comments like 'Do you think that she is serious about having a relationship'. Kind of makes me angry that people have to make comments.
2006-07-13 11:32:48 · update #1
Hey, I do t hink an age difference of more than just a few years does increase the risk of the two of you being at different places in life from time to time, and this maybe causing some waves on the sea of love. But all kinds of people have survived worse problems, I hope that you two are together a good long time. Don't let the questions from other people get you worked up. Tell them that you feel good about your relationship and that everyone has to work to make a relationship work.
2006-07-13 11:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by michael941260 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon how big the gap is and the ages involved.
The biggest prtential problem (IMO) is two people being in two different stages of life and wanting different things.
For example:
A 25 dating a 35...
The 25 may still be into partying while the 35 wants to settle down and have a family.
This is the same, gay or straight. If the couple has more common ground than difference, then the ages don't matter at all.
2006-07-13 11:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is all that matters and it will find a way if it is true. She is young, generation wise, and stereotypically not known for commitment until they've been around alittle. But each person is different, depending on how they were raised and women mature much faster than men at that age. As long as you have the important things in common to make a relationship last, ignore the ignorant and proceed with your happy selves. Good luck.
2006-07-13 16:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it does. What's important is not so much your exact age, but at what stage in your life you are. People who are at completely different stages in life are not going to have as much in common.
If one person is 20, and the other is 35, there are probably gonna be problems. The 20-year-old is going to want to be going out to bars, and wearing pants that are falling down all the time, etc, while the 35-year old will be more likely to want to spend quality time at home, apply Preperation X to their hemmorriods, etc.
But, I think if you're older, there probably isn't much of a difference between a 50 year old a 60 year old. Despite their difference in ages, they're more or less in the same stage of their lives, so that doesn't make a difference.
2006-07-13 11:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to the people who say that a 20 or 25 year old will still want to be out partying and going to bars... that's not true of so many people that age... my first gf was MUCH older than me.. as a matter of fact, I was 21 when we first got together.. I was ready to settle down and spend the rest of my life with her... we were together for over 6 years.. we'd still be together if I hadn't screwed up... my last gf was 12 years older than me... and I didn't think anything of the age difference.. you're attracted to who you're attracted to.. and you have no control over who you fall in love with... as long as both the people are 18, age makes no difference...
2006-07-13 12:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by Paige 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is 14 years between my partner and I. Although I love my partner to bits I would still say there are wide difference between us whether that is purely down to age is another question. I suppose my point is, it is not necesarily a reason not to go into a relationship with someone, but it isn't something you can be blind to either.
2006-07-13 11:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of you had said something like 16 and 28 Yeah that would be wrong, there are laws. But this is not your case you lucky ..... If the family doesnt mind and you two have talked about the age difference and are ok you don't need us to put in on it.
2006-07-13 11:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. My boyfriend is 5 years older than me. His only issue was whether or not a 22 yr old would take a relationship seriously, and I do. So as long as you dont thik that your girlfriend wants to go through a "gay whore" phase then things should be fine.
2006-07-13 12:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by stevepuff19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it does a little. But, the most important issue here is if she's mature enough and share some interests with you. Ignore people, they'll always talk.
2006-07-13 11:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, not in the least. The level of maturity makes a difference, not age.
2006-07-13 11:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋