2006-07-13 10:55:50 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are an adult start acting like one.
2006-07-13 10:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Craig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATULATIONS! I love being a Mom, being pregnant was fun too- most of the time anyway. As for your question, Don't be worried! Your Mom knows you, she LOVES you and will be able to help you through this! Butter her up by telling her, first, that you love and appreciate her and that you are glad you can tell her anything (*even if you are worried and can't always tell her everything*). This will warm her up and put her in a nice, loving, supportive mood- which is right where you want her emotionally! Then tell her how scared you are about what's happened, and allow her to help you- let her know your intentions (keeping the baby or giving it up for adoption, staying in school part time/full time, working.....) and tell her how you'd like her to help you with the decisions you've already made. This will give her a way to help w/o telling you what to do. Good luck and congratulations again- I think being a mom is the best thing in the world!
2006-07-13 11:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by NewMom4-20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!
The most important thing about the pregnancy is how YOU feel about it. If you are exhilarated that there is a new life growing inside of you than everything else will fall in to place, including telling your mother. You may be surprised by her reaction too. Many mothers are thrilled to become grandmothers even if the circumstances are not ideal and I assume they are not.
You may want to wait until you have reached the second trimester before telling anyone since there is such a high rate of miscarriage in the first trimester. I believe it's about 20%. If this happens it just means it wasn't meant to be. Good luck with everything.
2006-07-13 11:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank God you aren't another preggo teenager!
However, I suspect that you are unmarried.
Look, the least of your problems is telling your mom.
You've got to address a few difficult questions...
First tough question:
Are you planning to keep the baby, place it for adoption or abort?
Second tough question (if you choose to keep or adopt it):
Are you ready, willing and able to get the best prenatal care for the baby?
This includes changing your diet, eating healthy, no smoking, drinking, etc.
Third tough question:
Is the sperm donor going to help support this baby?
Now, after wrangling with those issues (and there are still a lot more questions needing answering), telling your mom will be easier.
Besides - you are an adult now.
You had sex as an adult and now you are facing the consequences as an adult.
Talk to your mom as an adult.
2006-07-13 11:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure thing. Every child is worried about it, no matter what your age. I am 35yrs old now, live on my own already have kids....I wouldn't know how to tell my mother now if it would save my life. But your mother would notice something unless you are living away from home like I was. Then I ran off & married the father ( another child later it didn't work out. that was 15yrs. ago) my family did know I was married or pregnant until I was months into both situations.
2006-07-13 11:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole - 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be worried at all, you are an adult. Besides, she will find out sooner or later, and even if she is upset she'll get over it. That's what happened when I told my mom I was pregnant (and I was 18 with my first pregnancy!). Now she can't believe how much she loves being a grandma. Don't worry, it'll be okay.
2006-07-13 11:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by chelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried to tell your mom- you're an adult. I got pregnant when I was 19 and had my first baby at 20. I'm now 24 with 2 kids and my mom and dad just love them to death!
2006-07-13 11:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do you still live with her and does she take care of you? do you have a job? i'm 21 and i'm 7 1/2 weeks pregnant and married and i don't live with my mom anymore. me and mom were close all i did was tell her. if i were you i would just tell her. don't be worried or you'll never be able to get enough courage to tell her.
2006-07-13 10:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by Blank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most parents just get freaked out because they are worried. Your 21 not 15 anyway. Most parents seem like they get made if they think you are going to get yourself pregnant but once it has actually happened they know they can either support you or watch you try and go it alone. Most parents want to take care of you. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-07-13 10:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by Constant_Traveler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your 21 your a grown up they cant tell you what to do with your life anyways 21 is a good age to have a baby you will have the energy to take care of him or her and play with them when they get older. I wish I had mine at that age good luck and congratulations
2006-07-13 11:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by camarozsonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried? Is is because you may not be married and she may have a case because you are pregnant and not married yet? That is what I am gathering. At least you are not a child but you have to tell her one day soon. I was 23 years old when I had my first and I told my parents and they were not upset.
2006-07-13 11:01:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋