My boyfriend (who I have been dating a little over two years now) went on a camping trip this weekend with his buds. I noticed that he wrote "Rit." and "Vic." on his list of things to pack. Curious, I asked him what the abbreviations meant. He hesitantly told me that "Rit." stood for "Ritalin" and "Vic." stood for "Vicodin." Now, I know my boyfriend does not have A.D.D., nor is he in serious or compelling pain. Obviously his intentions were to use the prescription drugs recreationally with his friends. He admitted that in the past he has taken these drugs "just for fun" and that it was "no big deal." He also said that he doesn't do it all the time. However, I am disappointed because I never intended to date a person who does drugs (even once in a while), especially at the mature age of 26. In my heart I know it's not right. I still love him very much... what should I do?
2006-07-13 10:34:21 · 6 answers · asked by HygirL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
P.S. - We also live together.
2006-07-13 10:51:42 · update #1
you might need to ambush his friend. see what's the story is. but it's fishy to me too.
2006-07-13 10:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugs are bad news, even if it is just once in awhile. Do your best to explain how you feel about the drugs to him, and show him what can happen to drug abusers, there all kinds of stories on the web. Ask him to stop, and if he wont well then at least you tried, but dont let him drag you down, stick to your guns and find yourself another boyfriend.
2006-07-13 10:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by XXX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u dont say anything this might endup bad, it's either u get involve or the police will and u dont want to see him go to jail. So I would suggest 4 u to talk to him about it. I know u love him but who wants to be in a relationship with a drug addict do u possibly think u can spent the rest of ur life with a drug addict. that's how it always started it's just 4 fun baby I'm going to stop I promise well sometime they dont, so please if u care about ur relationship talk to him. And tell him he has to stop or it's over.
2006-07-13 11:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. If he is willing to use drugs, and you don't want to be with that type of person, you are compromising your core values, and one day you will resent yourself as well as him for letting it come into your life. He will always try to explain the drugs as no big deal, and one day it may become more important to him than you.
2006-07-13 10:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither of those drugs are REALLY REALLY bad.. i dont understand why ppl do this either, but if it REaLLY bothers you, bring it up and tell him you dont like it, after all yal have been together for a while and he should be considerate of your feelings. Im guessing you;ve never had this problem with him... in those 2 years. why now? or did you jsut find out.... either way good luck
2006-07-13 10:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by Steph is tight like a tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he does have ADD and is under control with the meds. Have him look at the yoga, relaxation, Zen type exercises at the below links- they help ADHD naturally.
http://jasonalster.googlepages.com/home
http://jasonalster.googlepages.com/creativityandrelaxedconcentration
2006-07-15 17:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋