I'm really confused and i need help, at such a young age?

Question

i'm only 13, but i have many things i want to and need to need, i know i shouldn't worry but i do , i want to make a diffencewitchis a big one but i don't know how i try to do so much stuff that ends up blah.... i want to find a love of some sort, wich i totally have to wait but it's hard, i have moved so many times , 14 diff schools still in jr.high , 've never known my dad , my mom always has finacal issues , and i always want something to do and make a differance but i don't know hw someone help- stressed, confused, hopless little girl.

Answer 1

I'm sorry your life has been so hard. I am glad that you recognize that you need extra support. Most 13 year olds don't think about their future, but I'm glad you did. You don't say where you live, but I am going to assume that travel and money may be a problem...so I am offering a variety of suggestions that might apply to city and country life.

I agree with the first response to check out a local church youth program. Many have special programs for teens and some offer transportation to and from activities as a part of their ministry.

You could also check book clubs at your local library or contact a local youth organization, like YMCA, Girls Club, Girl Scouts or 4-H to see what is available in your area. Or, contact Big Brothers/Big Sisters, a national organization that pairs adults with youth who need additional support beyond what their parent can provide. All of these programs should have a national websites (below) or a toll-free telephone number in the telephone book to assist you in contacting the chapter in your community.

You could also consider volunteering at a local hospital, an animal shelter or with a local Meals on Wheels program to explore different types of careers.

Even though you have been in different schools, you can contact the guidance counselor of the school you most recently attended or the school district's offices to see if he/she can provide you information on neighborhood programs and activities for teens. As a teacher, I know that many schools also offer extra help to "migrant" students, those like you who for financial reasons don't remain in one residence for an extended period of time. Ask if the school district can provide assistance to you or can direct you to a local organization that can help.

If possible, try to watch a movie that came on the Hallmark or Lifetime called "Homeless to Harvard: The Liz Murray Story," a true story about a girl who lived homeless on the streets of New York City and through determination and hard work she completed high school in 2 years and won a New York Times scholarship to attend Harvard University.

Whatever you decide to do, know that there is help out there ---you are bright and have absolutely no reason to be hopeless. The world needs a few more people like you who want to make a difference.

Answer 2

Well you sound very mature for such a young age. I moved a lot when I was young too. I don't know if that is something you can take to your mom about?

As far as love goes you should wait and it is hard but I know I didn't wait long enough and I fell in love with all the wrong guys because I jsut wanted to be loved. Find someone good, it's worth the wait.

At your age you don't deserve to be stressed out but sometimes parents don't realize how much stress they are putting on their kids. You deserve to be a little girl. I think you should try and find something special to do because you sound like you have a lot to offer. You could volunteer somewhere, maybe helping other kids, maybe help at a shelter. Or for money you could start to babysit. It feels important sometimes to take care of children. I know it is hard to make friends when you move a lot so volunteering could help with that too. I don't know if you are religious at all but it is fun to go to a good youth group. Maybe even join some kind of teen.

I am really sorry to hear how you feel. It isn't easy although I will tell you it does get easier when you grow up and have some control of your own life, just hang in there.

Answer 3

Bless your heart, I hope you can get involved in a church youth group. They have lots of fun, love and support one another and sometimes do public service. I wish you the best.