I chose to leave due to an inequal partnership and horrible parenting, mental and some physical abuse as well. Yet, I still cry a lot even though we've been apart almost two years now. I feel guilty for everything, especially my children. When does it end?
2006-07-13 10:09:02 · 8 answers · asked by imperf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorice is the gift that keeps on hurting. It's a loss that can only be countered with a great deal of forgiveness and sacrifice. Life isn't about not hurting, it's about finding happiness despite all there is to lose.
Express your ability to love at every opportunity and focus on any and every blessing you have.
2006-07-13 10:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by joe implode 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, the first thing you need to do is change your id.
What does 'imperf' represent?
The second is to give yourself a lot of credit for not continuing in a dead end relationship.
Third is to pinpoint the reasons why you're carrying guilt. How can you feel guilty when you removed your children from a unhealthy relationship? Your action was a GOOD thing!
4th and last, if you cant find love and the highest regard within YOU.....speak with a professional, who will show you the way to empower yourself! Best wishes to you and your future!
2006-07-13 10:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're crying for the marriage that you wanted and didn't have. I think I would feel good about myself now because you could still be in the same mess you were in 2 years ago. You've given you and your children the gift of 2 years of wonderful stress-free freedom. Be happy.
2006-07-13 10:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start to get a life for yourself. You need to move on for your own good and your children. You made a decision for the right reasons so be proud and make a better life for all. Put a plan together with your goals and start working it GIRL... Good luck.
2006-07-13 10:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by accesscard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are willing to let go of the pain. As long as you dwell on it and look at it as a failure, you will never get over it. Realize that you actually gained some of your self respect and dignity back, and that you have made yourself a better person by leaving him/her.
2006-07-13 10:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, its not your fault so quit feeling guilty!! u left for the best because u obviously wasnt happy when u were in the marriage with that man anyway but yet, u were brave enough to get up and leave! i cant tell u how long will it take for u to get over him but trust me, all u need is time! best wishes and good luck!
2006-07-13 10:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by Jade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a conversation with yourself. Tell yourself you had no choice and that you made the right decision. Forgive yourself and then you will start to feel better.
And it does sound like you made the right decision....for your kids and yourself...good for you!!!
2006-07-13 10:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by kiss me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't ask how long its going to take for you to get over your divorce, only time can tell. You need to get your mind off of it, go out and be active, hang out with friends, meet new people and such.
2006-07-13 10:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by MedStudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋