My man cheated on me when I was pregnant, I found out, and forgave him simply because it was my first child, and the only other family I had (my brother) was in prison. I had nothing / no one to turn to but him (my man). I know you can forgive, but you never forget, and that is what is messing w/ me. I still freak out when he is late, or when he don't answer his phone, etc. Our daughter is 2 now and I would think by now if my feelings were going to change they would. I don't really think he is cheating, but I hear he flirts w/ girls at work, calls his female "friends" still, and text messages ppl all the time, I am not sure if the texting is females, or males, but it seems odd you would text constantly instead of just calling. Do you think I am paranoid, or do I just need to move on?
2006-07-13 09:57:41 · 7 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think You are paranoid... Something like this should have Never ever happened to you or your child ... Find the strength to move On... I know I was cheated on ... But I took mine back and I did forgive him and I still have trouble sometimes but I have to put Faith in him and our Marriage... I wish YOU all the Best...
2006-07-13 10:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by stessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not criticism. It's just that your entire description of what happened and the fact that you are so limited in options that you must always turn to him, is a reinforcement of my long standing belief that women should never let their guard down when it comes to planning for the future. In other words, school and job skills development, ability to be self sufficient and sustaining, so that you never have to stay with a bad spouse or bf, but you can make it without him. You sound very trapped and that's not a good place to be. The options - really good options - are so few.
2006-07-13 17:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yeah your paranoid but have very good reason to be. He cheated on you while you were pregnant and still does things he shouldn't. If your anything like me you will never get past this. Staying with him means a lifetime of being paranoid for you. Is that how you want to live ? Not me.
2006-07-13 17:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rec. you both read a book called After the Affair. I read somewhere that It takes about 2- 5 years for someone to get over when someone cheats on them. Sometimes it is easier to forgive than it is to forget. His actions are making it harder and harder for you to forget what he has done in the past and the book could help you both understand how the other feels.
good luck
2006-07-13 17:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by 2live 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the stupid never forgive or forget. the naive forgive and forget. the wise forgive but never forget!
I think its understandable for you to be concerned! If I were you I would be doing a little more prying into his personal stuff. Just a little bit to be sure.
2006-07-13 17:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by ilovedragonflies6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No leave him. Your daughter is two now and your feeling have not changed because you never forgot, be honest with yourself and move on.
2006-07-13 17:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life gurl, are just put him in check.
2006-07-17 22:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by mis,bossy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋