how do I get my husband to be more romantic?

Answer 1

convert him into a woman... ;-)

Answer 2

Have a 3 some

Answer 3

There is typically a reason why someone is not romantic.
That spark just gets lost sometimes.
Some people are just not creative enough (or too lazy) to be romantic.
My advice would be to let him know how you would "reward" him for being romantic. Try lingerie, or a new bowling ball, act out a sexual fantasy of his, or just give him a great bj, or something. Give him some incentive to make the effort.

If he feels he HAS to be romantic just because you're nagging him to do it ain't gonna make it happen any faster.

Maybe he doesn't want to be romantic because the spark IS gone. So how do you rekindle that romance?

I know this is going to sound totally superficial but whatever. If you've gained weight or something, or there's some other reason he may not be as attracted to you as he used to be, then consider that a problem too. Men tend to be more physically oriented than women. Women seem to still find their man sexy/attractive regardless of their gut. Men don't work this way. Guys want their girls gourgeous.

Maybe even a simple little make-over, which is also fun for you, in combo with the incentive/rewards I mentioned earlier would be enough to get him moving.

Now I realize that this is a lot of giving him stuff just so you can receive your romance but hey. I'm a guy, and I know what would work for me.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Well, I would start by talking with your husband about your desire for more romance. Find a time when he isn't tired, messing with kids (if you have any), or watching something on the tube. Get his full attention. Tell him what you would like and watch for any changes. Next you might plan a night out for the two of you. Have fun and don't hold back. Then tell him the next night out would be his responsibility to plan. I would also suggest that you and your husband set at least one night a month aside for "date night." The two of you need time alone without distractions to keep the romance and each other on his/her minds. Let me know how it goes.

You might also go to a book store and find a book about 365 nights of romance or great sex (its something like that). It has sealed pages that are specifically "his" and "hers." Inside each of these pages are ideas for a date, has a kiss of the week, a conversation starter, and a "lovers coupon." My wife and I have it and it takes some of the stress of figuring out what to do for a date off, and is fun to see some new ideas.

P.S. Be patient with him. He may not get the hint the first time. He'll have to work at it. Keep talking and dropping hints about it.

Answer 5

How can I get my wife more romantic? I send her cards, flowers and call her from work once in a while just to tell her I love her and all I get is an uh-huh. Maybe we married the wrong people? Whenever I give her a foot rub she just wants more and has never returned the favor even though she knows I love a shoulder rub

Answer 6

Maybe you complain/nag/biitch too much? Im very serious. Women go on this whole rampage to try to change men. Come divorce time "Hes not the man i met! " OF COURSE HES NOT BECAUSE YOU CHANGED HIM. Why don't you try just throwing it at him?? Did you try that? Of course not. Maybe he dosen't approach you because every time he did you said no or weren't in the mood.. Retrace your steps, see if you went wrong anywere. I say throw it at him. He works hard enough dosen't he? And if your a stay at home wife, then theres no reason why you shouldnt throw it at him.Romance? Romance died the day you turned from a wfie to a nag. Poor guy. He probabaly wants nothing more then sex. But you want to be all magical and expensive. tsk tsk tsk .If im at all right, throw it his way. I bet you 500 bucks it will work. AND IF YOU DO AND HE DOSENT WANT SEX??1 run woman run! Also if he goes to the gym everyday but isnt in shape, then hes gay and you need to leave him. Alternatively, see if hes into the cuckold scene, we're you screw black men infront of him. Making him your BIITCH. either way, either your the biitch or he is.

Answer 7

If you guys are still in love but just caught up in daily living, then maybe you can help him learn your needs. Maybe read "His needs her needs" Men are generally not as affecionate as women. If they can see the reason for it sometimes they will make an effort to be more romantic. It may be up to you to make a reservation to some place nice and get all dolled up for him to see you new in a new light. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 8

Hello melita,

My simple answer would be to give him a nice wet B*** J** when he comes home. The guy is probably working hard all day long and then he comes home and you expect him to act a certain way to please you. What about pleasing him?

You want him to worship you a little more, well that works both ways. A nice neck rub after a hard day and maybe he'll feel more relaxed and ready to be more open to what you want. Maybe he's just too tired trying to make ends meet.

Take care of him then you can talk about him taking care of your needs. I wish you the best of luck.

--Rick

Answer 9

Dear..
We men (normal ones) are what our women's make us. Men will all do respect to my gender, "Usually" lack the new ideas for romance and "most of the times", we're not the one who initiate the touching move.. because we're responsive ..

Back to you,
By being romantic, you inspire your husband with lots of ideas to be so. maybe it won't work in the beginning, but at the end, you'll thank me..:-)

good luck

Answer 10

Let him know that you would like it if he would be more romantic once in a while. And don't try to force him. He wants to be spontaneous and surpise you. Make yourself available for him to do something special.

Answer 11

Be honest with him. Tell him that you want more romance, and where you want it, either in public or in private. Give him ideas then give him a chance. He won't know that you want more unless you tell him. Communication is the best road to romance.