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to let go of (or have absolutely nothing to do with) people that intentionally caused me unnecessary money, pain and headaches even if it's a younger distant brother?

I didnt grown up with him and I didnt get to know him until he was 15. The boy has ran up a cell phone bill, ate up all of my food and when he got a job ran off with an untrustworthy woman I grew up with that is 10 years older than he is and left me high and dry with the rent after he promised me he would contribute.

2006-07-13 09:53:47 · 5 answers · asked by yadedyah_dc 3 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

He's now 21. This has went on for the last 6 years.

2006-07-13 10:01:31 · update #1

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This sounds almost like what Phoebe went through on "Friends."
But seriously - you are not wrong, you OWE this ne'er-do-well nothing, especially since he has spoiled the distant family ties.
Guilt, however, is a powerful enemy. You must be strong and defeat guilt; do this, and the brother is a distant memory as well as a distant brother.

2006-07-13 10:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 4 0

I think that is a question only you can answer. I would say that if he ran off then you don't have much to worry about. However, learn from this and no longer set yourself up to be taken advantage of this person. I would say that steering clear of him may not be a bad thing.

2006-07-13 16:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by mac5doc 2 · 0 0

He is 15 for god sake. He is still a child. Of course he's going to run up the phone bill. Maybe you shouldn't treat him as though he's an adult because he's not.

2006-07-13 16:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0 0

i understand what you are going thru i have went thru something like this to and no you are not wroung you can not just sit there and let him use you it is wroung and no one desvers to be treted like that the bible says to treat someone like you want them to treat you but that is not always the way it works out you should let him be and move on with your life you have helped him and got nothing in return hope you have better luck with out him

2006-07-13 16:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by crazyforcoke34 1 · 0 0

it is totally up to you. I have siblings that have a big age difference to me and we have what I refer to as falling outs. Where we don't have anything to do with each other. You can not pick your family but you can choice who you like and talk to.
Good luck

2006-07-13 17:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by kmh2kms 1 · 0 0

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